(Closed) Advice on people driving u crazy!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3001 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@FutureMrs.browneyes:  I’m not a good example….but I also have a short fuse. My mom ran out of fuse and I pretty much yelled at her “shut your pie hole! you’re p*ssing me off!” aha ya.. not so good. My best from hs is engaged to my SO’s brother and I hear about her wedding nonstop, my brother got engaged over the winter to his gf of not nearly as long as me and my SO (which i now hear about planning all the time) so now my family wont leave me alone. They ask nearly everytime I call them or see them! After my burst, I now only have to go “MOM” and it stops…

Post # 5
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1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

LOL this reminds me of the joke I once heard about elderly telling the young girl at weddings: You’re next! Her turning around and telling them : You’re next at a funeral. LOL

I just make it into a joke now, well I kinda always have but was sad or upset inside, specially since I also wear a promise ring on the left finger and people assume its an e-ring.

 

Post # 6
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is actually what facilitated some of the conversations FI and I had. I explained that I get harassed for not being engaged and that people ask me which is upsetting because it wasn’t “up to me”. It let him see into what I was experiencing, got us to the point of talking about how we envision married and engaged life being different from how it is now (very little), and let us decide that we wanted to communicate about the engagement process.

 

I know that it’s not helpful as to what to say to people, but maybe you can make it work to your advantage. 

Post # 7
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If your BF is upset when you tell people to ask him, you could just tell people that a) it will happen when it happens or b) that it’s between you and your BF (which it is… your timeline is no one else’s business unless you want it to be their business).

 

I get what you mean though. BF and I got in a fight after my office Christmas party this year because people kept asking when we were getting engaged, and I kept telling them to ask BF. He said that everytime someone asks him, it makes him want to delay the engagement. I can understand a man saying something like “Every time you ask when it’s going to happen and bug me about it and bring up wedding stuff it will just delay the engagement” (like when a girl is being obsessive and asking too much about the engagement), but I can’t control what other people say and it’s not fair to punish me by postponing our engagement simply because of what others say.

Post # 11
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801 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

ugh, I know!

Even my boyfriend’s mother’s nail salon is constantly asking ME and saying she’s my mother-in-law, etc.

I don’t have a great advice other than keep calm 😉

Post # 13
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

@FutureMrs.browneyes:  I have had TWO people steal the song i wanted at our wedding.  Its so annoying. 

Post # 14
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I get so annoyed when people ask life questions like that. ‘when are you getting engaged?’ ‘when are you getting married?’ ‘when are you having kids?’ I have never asked anyone any of these questions, and never will. 

Maybe respond with something like ‘well one day I hope, but we’re happy as we are at the moment’ or snarky ‘I left my fortune cards at home so I’m not sure….’ 

Post # 15
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I don’t know…I get asked once in a while, but I don’t take offense. It can get annoying, but you have to realize that most people are asking because engagement is a happy event. I see it as they are wishing happiness on you by asking. Same goes with when are you getting married and when are you having kids? I mean, yeah, it’s probably none of their business, but it’s a happy thing to talk about, so I think you should just try to keep calm and stay polite and realize that it’s a GOOD thing.

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