Post # 1
When my hubby proposed he didn’t have a lot of money for the ring and then we started planning and paying for the wedding so we couldn’t upgrade. Now he told me we can do the upgrade. We went to the store where he got the ring because they have a policy where they give you what you paid for towards the upgrade. I will be upgrading for the exact same ring but with greater carat size because I ended up loving the style he picked for me. The problem I’m having is that I’m getting emotional about trading the ring I got married with. Sometimes I feel silly about getting emotional because is the exact same ring but bigger and I really love the upgrade one. My husband said that whatever I decide he is fine with it. My mom says that there is no reason to get emotional what matters is how you live your marriage not if you are wearing the same ring (she has upgraded twice).
Here is the one I have 0.5 carat tw
Here is the upgrade 1 carat tw
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion
I think you can’t lose! You either keep the ring you have, that you are sentimentally attached to , or you get a bigger stone. Either is a great choice! I have an upgraded ring and I love it, but I was able to keep my original because I only had bands to begin with. I may nit be the best person to comment, however, as I am not terribly sentimental about many possessions. Would you be keeping your wedding band? It might be a nice compromise to have 1 originsl and 1 new ring 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsLopez: if you feel that strongly about your original ring, I would just keep it. Maybe he can get you a nice anniversary band at some point.
Post # 5
I was not being sentimental until my sister started trying to convince me not to do it. Also there is another thing that worries me, my husband was raised with little financial resources (he says that sometimes there was no money for a carton of milk). He and his brothers all went to college with scholarships and working hard while in college which I admire very much. My upbringing was different, I was not rich but working class and I always had everything I needed. Somehow my brother in law thinks that I’m snobby because when my husband met me I was living on my own and had a fairly new car that I could afford (a Ford Escape). I’m working class like my parents are, I worked hard for everything I have and I don’t wear designer clothes but somehow he thinks I’m high maintenance. It worries me that if he sees me with a bigger ring he is going to bother my husband with nasty comments. My husband says he doesn’t care what his brother thinks.
Post # 6
@MrsLopez: I had to exchange my rings when Kays repair shop ruined my original set. I chose a beautiful new set that was sort of an upgrade as they gave me a huge discount for ruining my rings. I ended up getting something totally different, and loved it! I cried a little knowing the set I got married with was no more. But I still got to keep the guy, I just got a bigger ring. =) its a little bittersweet. You may be a little sad, but dont overthink it. You still have your husband, and if he is on board with upgrading I say do it!! Your new ring will be beautiful, and having it so similar to your original may make you feel much less sad about it than you think you will be!! I have looked at that ring in the store before, it is beautiful! =)
Post # 7
@MrsLopez: Both are equally beautiful, but the 1 carat is noticeably larger. I understand the sentimental attachment, but getting an identical upgrade. ..just bigger carat…might help you overcome the attachment you have to your current ring. Whatever you choose, you will always have the best part of the deal and that’s your awesome DH. #I’ve only been engaged since Dec 2013 and I’m already attached to mine.
Post # 8
@MrsLopez: There is nothing wrong with having and loving a small diamond. If you feel attached to your ring, keep it! If you really want a bigger stone, there is nothing wrong with that either.
Don’t keep or change it because you are worried about third party opiions though, either way. Your ring is a gift from your FI. The both of you are the only ones who get to have an opinion or a say about it!
Post # 9
I am sentimental like that. I definitely understand upgrading, but I couldn’t do it myself and am surprised how popular it appears to be on here. As others have said, make this decision between the two of you – don’t let any relatives push you in either direction. What about an eternity band?
Post # 10
@MrsLopez: I would never upgrade. To me, the purpose of a ring is its a gift from your man when he asks you to be his forever. The ring that he gives you is a symbol of his proposal and your acceptance. To me, the value of that is worth much more than diamonds. At the end of the day, nothing will ever be big enough. You’ll upgrade, then you’ll eventually realise it’s not big enough and you’ll try to or want to upgrade again. Keep the ring, it has so much sentiment behind it. Who cares how big the diamonds are, you like at that ring and you see that your marriage began with that ring. But that’s just me…
Post # 11
I would upgrade. It sounds like your husband’s plan all along was to have you be able to upgrade the ring when you could both afford to. The new ring is still the exact same style as the original ring. But you should look at it proudly, as a symbol of making it through all those tough financial times, and coming out of them stronger than ever. It can signify a new beginning with your hubby. 🙂
Post # 12
I upgraded my center stone without changing the original setting. I love the way it looks and the ring doesn’t “feel” different! I don’t think anyone else noticed the change (from .50 to 1.27 carats.) People do tell me that my ring is pretty, but not that it looks bigger. I think you should upgrade!
Post # 13
If you think you will be unhappy if you don’t upgrade, then get the new stone. I couldn’t do it, I would rather just get an anniversary ring or something but if it’s something that will bother you then go for it.
Post # 14
@Baybeejulia: I agree!
@MrsLopez: it seems that people think that a certain size stone equates to the amount of love in a relationship but that is absolutely untrue. If you want to get a bigger stone and your husband wants to do it AND it is not a financial strain then do it. But don’t do it because you think you should do it. I think there can be too much “keeping up with the Joneses” going on and upgrading because of what it says to the rest of the world doesn’t make sense (to me at least).
Post # 15
@chloees_mom: Actually that is what I wanted to do but according to the store it can’t be done because the setting is not made for a bigger stone. I don’t know if is true or they are trying to sell the upgrade but that is what they said.
Post # 16
If you’re attached to your current ring, get an anniversary band for your right hand. You get something sparkly, and you keep the original ring.