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Here's my take on this situation and what we will be doing. I don't think that anyone can judge on how serious someone's relationship is. Some relationships that are over a year are less serious than those of 6 months. So I think this arbitrary 1 year rule may be hurtful to your guest. I say give a plus one to anyone who is in a relationship of any kind, (boyfriend, fiance, husband). Single people don't get a plus one unless they are travelling from far away or if they wouldn't know anyone else at the wedding.
When FI and i had been dating for about 5 months he was invited to a wedding but I wasn't because we "hadn't been dating long enough." We were both pretty mad that these people were judging our relationship and consequently he decided not to celebrate theirs with them
We really cut down on the (+1). If we knew the "other" or they had been together a long time, we generally added it. But not always! Bad, I know, but our guest list has ballooned out of control!
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We are still in the early stages of planning and looking at the guest list, so I'm not 100% sure what we're doing. But I'm pretty sure we aren't going to allow any single people plus ones. As for people in relationships, eh.. I'm not sure. Everyone will probably be invited because I know they will RSVP or come as a couple anyway...Sorry that doesn't help. However if your budget simply cannot accomodate all the extra people, you just have to do the hard thing and not allow it.
We are picking and choosing who gets a plus one.
All our close friends and family will get a plus one - single or in a relationship.
We have a bunch of guests we HAVE to invite bc they are part of group or friends of family and they not getting a plus one. Simply put I dont really care if they get mad, I honestly wouldnt invite them but I am forced to. So if they are upset, then thats just fine with me, I rather they not show!
We decided that only engaged or married couples would be a plus one...so our friends who are dating don't get plus one. I'm sure there will be complaints but we had to institute some sort of somewhat fair cut off. Its also to prevent one of my friends from bringing her married boyfriend. As in, married to someone else. We have another friend and her by who without fail manage to have some sort of huge argument at, directly before, or at the end of any wedding they go to...so we wanted to avoid that too.
Our thought is that if we don't know who you are dating then we don't plan on giving them a plus one. I have a very large family, so we have to limit it somehow.
Thank you so much for the imput girls!!
When my FH and I were in arround a 8 month relationship I got invited to a wedding but my boyfriend at that time didnt, we got really upset about it (plus he's kind of sentimental about those kind of things) and I didn't wanted to do the same thing to his friends (the single ones, cause the married get a + 1).
So yeah maybe it's better to discuss each case just so we know they are not being offended by the cut.
Ohhh I'm scared I'll end up with the same number 
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So my FH made the list of the people he feels like they HAVE to be at our wedding; when he told me the number I almost passed out! He said 200, ok I thought that’s not bad but then he said that we had to add the + 1 on the invitations, 400!!!!!! Just on his side! Crazy!! Well, we are not having more than 10 guest from Chile so yeah, his side will the most of the total, but we are on a budget so that’s a number I wasn’t counting on.
I know he might cut the list off after ask him how we were supposed to feed all those people, but I don’t know how to manage the “ +1” Ive heard girls saying that they did it only to those who are in a 1 year or longer relationship, but my questions are ->
Are we supposed to tell people that because they haven’t being dating long enough they are not welcome to bring a partner?
How’s the polite way to do such thing?
Will they be sad that they don’t have a dancing partner?
How did you deal with this situation?