(Closed) Advice on waiting indefinitely?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

How about asking him:

If I were totally ok w/ a sterling silver ring that costs $200 at Macy’s (or whatever store)would you propose then?  Would you be ready for marriage?

That way, he can’t “hide” behind the “ring reason”.  What will he say then?

Just something to think about.

Post # 4
1106 posts
Bumble bee

Gosh hon I wish I had advise for you.. Im in the same boat and it sucks.. majorly

Post # 5
114 posts
Blushing bee

as i started reading the beginning of your post i thought to myself “he’s probably saving for a ring!” you have nothing to worry about! if i were you, i’d back off. he is def saving for a ring and i’m sure he wants to surprise you and get something really nice, not just anything he could buy right now! i think you have to really let the guy lead in this situation. guys want to feel like they are the man- planning the perfect surprise proposal and sweeping their wife to be off her feet:) i doubt he’ll wait too much longer if he’s mentioned he wants to propose- just let him do his thing. remember: good things come to those who wait! don’t let the journey pass you by because you’re focused on the end result- enjoy this time:)

Post # 6
3587 posts
Sugar bee

I’m in the same boat. Try to focus on your career and other things you are interested it. It takes your mind off waiting.

Post # 7
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

A year isn’t that long to wait.  Fiance and I have been together for almost 5 years, lived together for 4 of those.  We talked about getting married soon after dating (We were only 18-19 then!) Let it happen at his pace – you don’t want to rush him.  When it happens, it is truly amazing.

Post # 8
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sure he’s saving, but you’ve only been together a year. Maybe he’s jut giving you guys some time with the adjustment of graduation and whatnot and he doesn’t feel the “rush”.

Post # 10
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m in the same boat cam & it sucks! We have been together 3.5 yrs and I feel like we never have any money to spare after bills & what not. I just keep thinking that the engagement will never happen because I don’t see him having the money anywhere in the near future! And I don’t have expensive taste either!! At least I know I’m not alone…

Post # 11
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m with you.   We both want to be married about this time next year, but I have no idea when the actual proposal is going to happen.  My Boyfriend or Best Friend is extremely meticulous and likes to plan things down to the milisecond.  Lord knows how long he’s going to want to save up, then how long it’s going to take to actually pick the ring, then how long it’s going to take to actually plan the proposal. Ugh.  I know it IS going to happen within the year, it’s the “when” that gets me.  

The only thing  you can really do is to try to enjoy the moment.  I’m constantly reminding myself about how happy I am just to be WITH him.  I was sitting and thinking the other day about how, given the fact that I’m going to be spending the next 30 odd years with this man, this time now is so, so precious.  Compared to the rest of our lives, we’re in our infancy right now.  In 10 years, I’m going to look back at the stage we’re at now (so wildly, madly in love, living together in our first rented house with a yard, just us and the cats, our entire future ahead of us all bright shiny and new) and treasure it.  I want to get the very, VERY most out of where we’re at now and the only way I can do that is to live in the moment and not let it pass me by.  It’s not always easy, it’s certainly a day by day kind of thing, but well worth it.

Post # 12
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My advice is to enjoy your relationship! You have only been dating a year and you guys are young! Have fun and just enjoy being young and in love!

The engagement and marriage will come in due time. When he is ready and more when he can afford to propose to you the way he wants to!

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