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Thanks, the fruit basket was my idea. But everybody else has a different opinion (mom, hubby, in laws). Anyone else?
I like the fruit basket idea, or a nice flower arrangement, something along those lines. The gift card or a dinner out would also be nice, but I don't think you should ask them outright if they wanted payment, since the wedding is already over... if they expected it, they would've brought it up already, right? I think if you bring it up after the fact and they say no, then it will seem like you're only taking them out to dinner for that reason, rather than doing it as a nice guesture because you want to thank them.
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So we're tying up some loose ends from our August wedding and I have one issue that is troubling me. We asked a family friend to do the ceremony (who is a judge by profession). We never discussed payment ahead of time, and had no rehearsal dinner (so no gifts were handed out). I thought/ think that he might not have expected payment, but feel bad I never confirmed it. We were supposed to have a sit down planning of the ceremony, but short version is things happened and we didn't, we just had a 5 minute ceremony at his courthouse, with our parents in attendance.
So what do I do? They have been friends for a long time and last thing I want to do is somehow upset them. There are a couple options being thrown around - but I can't figure out which is best.
buy them a fruit basket for home delivery - with a nice thank you card
call them up, ask if they want payment and if not, take them out to dinner
send them an american express gift card with a thank you note.
For some reason, prior to the wedding I was figuring I'd give them a restaurant gift card, and that would be it. But they gave us that, and now I'm just completely at a loss if that was even the right choice.
What would you do?