Advice on when to ttc

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I think you should start trying. 

Wanting to have a baby during a certain time is fine, but I think it’s best to start trying as soon as you’re ready. Trying to time a child doesn’t always work anyway; you could be waiting for no good reason. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@1112bride:  I am not a teacher so I am sorry if this is a dumb question but what happens if you have the baby in september or at any other point during the school year? Surely they have some process in place. Is FMLA not applicable to teachers?

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@1112bride:  You just read my mind!  My mother and I were talking about this same thing this morning! 

I also work in a school system, and have been debating how to go about maternity leave. We are getting married in July, and would like to TTC immediately after. I do worry a bit about getting pregnant in July, and then going out on maternity leave at the end of April, because I also had planned on having more of a summer baby.

My biggest concern is that I was just hired at a new school, after working for 5 years at another school. I won’t get tenure at the new school for 2 more years. I worry a little about potentially requesting a leave after only a year and a few months of working.

Really though, I can’t imagine I would ever put off babies for a job. I would hope that our supervisors and colleagues would be accepting of a leave, because it seems like families should be a priority for school people! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why wouldn’t you get FMLA leave? It should go into effect once you’ve been there for 12 months. I’d just start now, no reason to wait. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think going on mat leave is fine shes more worried about disrupting the kids school year because they’d have a new teacher coming in just before the year is out which starts to run into exams etc….  It could be a pain for them but Im sure it happens frequently. You cant really plan exactly when its gonna happen anyways unless your crazy fertile lol. I wouldnt put it off… I have people who expected it to take 6mo-1yr and it happened the first month, others figured “it would be a snap” and 2.5 years later :s ….. it finally happened for them.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m a teacher. Have a kid whenever you can. You have no idea how long it will take you to conceive or if you will have any issues. 

Plus, having a baby in the summer has its issues too. I’m due August 5 (That’s in your time frame). That means my baby will be 3 weeks old when my school year starts. Are you willing to go back full time with a baby that young??? You won’t even have recovered from the birth fully yet 🙂 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper

@1112bride:  Totally understandable! However, I am in the start when you are ready camp and don’t wait for that “perfect timing” moment. You really have no idea how long it will take you to concieve. We tried to time our pregnancy and while we were pretty close (a month off) we know of many couples that took a year or more to get their BFP.

Think of all the time you would waste essentially while waiting for that perfect moment. That would mean that if you wanted to have all of summer you would need to deliver in what mid-June? I believe that would make it a September only option for TTC! That is a pretty limited timeline!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@1112bride:  I’m a teacher and I worry about this too! I’m working in a new district and will not have tenure, so I feel a lot of pressure to try have a summer baby to avoid asking for leave. We are going to start trying in September – if we get lucky on the first try, great. If not, we are just going to keep trying from there!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@1112bride:  Ah, I understand. Thanks for the clarification 🙂 Well I mean its nobodys choice but your own!!! I would personally just start now- you don’t know how long it may take, but again its a very personal choice. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Coming from someone who has been trying a few months shy of a year (and off BC/not being careful for over 2 years) I say start trying now. You can’t predict exactly when you’ll get pregnant.  Maybe don’t temp or chart or anything but just stop birth control and see what happens, when it gets closer to your timeframe you can pay a bit more attention, but that way if you find you may be having difficulties you can seek help faster. 🙂

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@1112bride:  You should at start taking folic acid (folate) sooner than later, since it’s so essential in the earliest stages of pregnancies. It’s my understanding that other vitamins arent especially necessary until you’re actually pregnant. Me? I’m taking them now just to play it safe – no harm in doing so, and it’s good for you too!

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