Post # 1
Hi so I’ve been engaged since august. We plann on getting married sept 18,2015. I think I want to move it to October 3,2015 though.my budget is 5k for the wedding.my wedding dress from online would be 527 with shipping.i plan on gett mason jars for drinks that would also be wedding favors and a few for decorations that would be 70 dollars.i want to make my own wedding invites and I hope to keep that under 100.00. I was thinking of ordering the flowers I want from online In bulk.i want bouquets and flowers off etsy but for what I want without rep or ceremony flowers that 430.00 i can buy the same flowers in bulk and make them myself and get rep and ceremony flowers for 460.00. Stickers with our names and wedidng dates for the jars are 51.00 and my shoes where 47.73 dollars with shipping.im going to DIY them with glitter thaya costed 10.00 dollars.my cake topper was 102.95 custom made.a friends doing wedding and engagement pics for 250.00.im looking into three places for our wedding they all are for reception and ceremony together one was 3k,one was 3,250, and the other was 3,900.the 3k comes with some things.the 3,900 is a better deal because it comes with a dj and a photo booth .also fireworks thas will go off when we walk out And a photographer .but they said they would work with out budget and give us what we want.we are having a rustic wedding.my fiancé thinks I’m planning to much now but I have to to see how much we need.he also thinks we should move until 2016 so we have money to go have fun this summer. I don’t kind not doing things so we can get married.but he wants a better truck before we get married ,wants to go do a lot of fun things and blow a lot of money.we both live with out parents and i have a child.he said we would have to live with my parents after we get married so we can save up for a house.but with his job which is tree service sometimes he doesn’t get paid for weeks so idk how we would pay for anything .we don’t even have rings Not even an engagment ring.i told him we can get a cz ring for now I don’t mind.I just idk what to do…. Sorry this is long.
so my fiancé doesn’t want to talk much about wedding stuff.he think all this money we going to put towards it is stupid.but he blows a lot of money towards things.ive stopped blowing money besides me buying our cake topper and the stuff for my shoes.all my fiancé says is we will see or we can try but he doesn’t try.i have broken up with him once becuase he wasn’t trying and didn’t want to do anything with my child.he said he would change.so far it’s ok.om just worried he doesn’t want any of this.he blows money and doesn’t save at all.he said we would have to live at my parents so we can save up for a house since he doesn’t want to rent from somewhere.i just lost my job so I’m trying to find another one.im trying to make the wedding cheap as possible.i can get married at the lake down the road from my house for free I just I don’t know if we can fit 70 plus people on the small island there. We also have a lot of debt and tax money that needs to be paid the tax money is his but he doesn’t want to pay it .i don’t know what to do with anything.sorry this probably doesn’t make much since .
Post # 2
This is the same guy who said he doesn’t even know why you’re engaged and that he doesn’t like your child because he “gets on his nerves”?
This is not a relationshp that I would pursue.
Post # 3
Yeah same one.im trying to give him another chance but I feel like is be paying for everything and that’s not right.and so much more
Post # 4
dpslh913059487: I obviously only know what you post on here but my opinion: STOP planning this wedding. 2nd chances lead to 3 & 4 etc etc. You are young… slow down. This guy doesn’t seem interested in planning a future with you & he isn’t going to change. You & your son deserve better & when you drop the extra baggage (him) and live for you and your son and giving him the best future – great things will follow.
Post # 5
He’s a loser. You and your child deserve better.
Post # 6
Don’t marry him. He clearly doesn’t want to get married – and not paying his taxes? Really?
Post # 7
Seriously, do you want to marry him or do you just want a wedding?
Post # 8
If you cannot afford to get married (back tax money, other debt, no job and neither one of you is saving money) then you shouldn’t be planning a big wedding (or even a small one). Get married at the courthouse for $70 and call it done. Spending money you don’t have on a wedding is just asinine.
On that note, marrying a guy who owes back taxes, but doesn’t want to pay it?? A big no-no. His debt will become your debt, and you’ll have to deal with it too. Why are you marrying someone who doesn’t want to pay his taxes and doesn’t save his money for the future? How will he ever be able to provide for you, your child, his future children, etc??
This guy is a loser, but you’ve been told that before. Why are you so desperate to get married to him?? What does he have that you’re not disclosing??
Post # 9
Your posts are very hard to read. But from what I’ve read on both your posts… it seems like this guy doesn’t care at all. You’re young, there’s no rush to get married.
There are red flags all over the place. CANCEL the wedding and wait to set a date once your FI is ready. In your other post I think you said he didn’t feel ready, yet you have a date set and your hoping he’ll change his mind by then?
Please. Think of your child and don’t go through with this. If you rush into marriage and it doesn’t work out, it’s going to be tough on your child as well.
Post # 10
Marrying this guy is, to put it mildly, a bad idea. Don’t do it.
Post # 11
“sorry this probably doesn’t make much since”
Ummm….yeah. You posted this twice…today…about an hour apart.
I think you need to ditch this guy, focus on yourself and your kid, get a little education, and stop worrying about a wedding that is, frankly, a really bad idea.
I’ve read your past post, and this relationship is a total train wreck.
Post # 12
I just cannot understand a mindset that is talking about spending hundreds of dollars on flowers that will die in a day when you’re an unemployed, single mom living at her parents house and marrying a guy with sporadic employment.
Please stop focusing on your princess party and get your priorities straight. You do not need to be getting married right now. You need to get yourself and your life together first. Figure out how to stand on your own two feet. Then you can think about adding someone else to the equation. Preferably a someone who can also stand on their own two feet.
In any case, you are not in a position to spend money you don’t have on dying plants and glitter shoes, no matter how much they *costed*.
Post # 13
Ugh. Reading your posts, you’ve been with this guy for maybe 10 months, got engaged to him after 2 months, there are already issues which you just blow right past with *im trying to give him another chance but I feel like is be paying for everything and that’s not right.and so much more*.
You’re only 19. the pretty princess wedding is not the end all and be all. You are way too focused on that. Life isn’t about cake-toppers and glitter shoes and spending thousands of dollars in one day. It’s about food, clothing and shelter first and foremost. Once you have those absolute bottom-line basic necessities on lock-down for an extended period of time, then you can start looking toward the luxeries in life, like amora gem rings and $200 bridesmad dresses. Or investing in some education or something.
Please just stop this. You are heading for disaster here. It is plain as day to any observer that you have got it all wrong here and you need to pull back and re-think your life priorities now before it’s too late.
Post # 14
OP, you’re 19 years old, already have a child, and have been engaged twice. Pull yourself together, FFS.
This man not only does not want to marry you and be a father to your child, he can in no way support you or your child. I don’t know what you’re looking for here, but this wedding and relationship are a total and complete train wreck.
Dig deep, find some self respect, learn how to take care of yourself without some deadbeat dude, and try maybe putting the needs of your child (stability, support, love) ahead of your desire to have a freaking pretty princess wedding.