Post # 1
I need a bit of advice. One of our groomsmen can no longer come to the wedding. He is in the Navy and just found out he will be out to sea during our wedding date. We had already got him a gift for being a groomsman, but my question is, do we still give it to him? We probably won’t see him again until at least 9 months from now. What is the proper etiquette in this situation?
Post # 3
You purchased it for him. It is not his fault that he can’t be there. I think that you should give it to him anyway. It might just be that one thing that keeps him sane while he is away.
Post # 4
Personally, I would give it to him. It’s not like he’s taking a vacation instead of coming or you’ve had some sort of falling out. It’s unfortunate the timing is off, but he’ll be gone for a good reason. I think showing him your thankful for his friendship and support would be a nice gesture. Could you mail it to his station or find a way of getting it to him around the time of the wedding? That might be a great surprise for him!
Post # 5
I would give it to him. Just because he can’t be there, doesn’t mean his groomsmen status has changed. By the way you could always still put him in the program as a groomsmen and add a note that says he is deployed.