- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Long time lurker – Please give me some advice! 🙂 For our wedding I gave my BM’s the option to choose if they wanted to have their hair and makeup done with me the day of, or if due to financial constraits/preference they wanted to do it themselves. The stylists are mobile, so they are a bit more pricey, but I love the idea of us all getting ready together and being together. Fiance and I are paying for their dresses, so we can’t really afford to pay for hair/makeup too.
50% of my BM’s are getting their hair and makeup done with me, and one is getting her hair done. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man (FSIL) is doing her own hair, which is great because she’s trained. However, her skills aren’t really transferable to makeup unfortunately. She uses heavy, heavy foundation (doesn’t match her skin tone), heavy eyeliner/mascara, eyeshadows, etc. You get the picture. I found out recently that she wants to do both on her own. I’m a bit disappointed, because when I asked everyone in a message what they wanted to do, she didn’t respond (although I had thought she would want to do her own hair). I have book the MUA but haven’t put down the deposit, and I have included a spot for her. My mother agrees that she should have her makeup done because she doesn’t really do it well herself, and she even offered to pay for it if cost is the concern.
How do I ask her to have it done? I’m considering discreetly offering to pay for it, but I’m not sure if it’s a money issue or an issue of ‘I’ll do it better’? I’ve also considered telling her that we’ve booked the MUA and it’s already paid for (and pay the tab myself). I’m also wanting to spend time with her the morning of, and I’m worried that she’ll be off in some other area doing her hair and makeup without the rest of us girls.
Thoughts? Sorry for the length. Thanks bees! 🙂