Post # 1
Hi Ladies, I need your advice – I have a dear old friend who I want to include in some way, but my groom doesn’t want him to be a groomsman, which is fine by me, considering he already has a lot and they’re not close. However, my friend did have me be in his wife’s bridal party when they were getting married (which I thought was a little weird) and I don’t want him to be disappointed. Other than the vague "usher" title, is there a nice significant way I can include him as my friend?
Post # 3
I think the usher title is still appropriate. You are still dressed to match the wedding party, included in photos, (typically) given seating with or around the wedding party, attend the rehearsal, etc. Having him as an usher would allow you to include him in all aspects of your big day.
Post # 4
I don’t know how you feel about having a "bridesman," but that’s a possibility… he could dress like the groomsmen, but be on your side. Some of my friends have done this (for one couple, the bride’s brother was a "bridesman" and the groom’s female friend was a "groomsmaid"), and it’s worked out pretty well.
Post # 5
I was just going to suggest he stand on YOUR side. My friend’s MOH was really her Man of Honor. My FSIL is standing on my FI’s side, and at another friend’s wedding, the groom’s sister is standing on his side.
If not, an usher job is still great! Just include him in all the BP stuff so he doesn’t feel second class
We labeled them "Bride’s Attendants" and "Groom’s Attendants" on programs to avoid "bridesmen and groomsladies" and whatnot.
Post # 6
I think you have a lot of options. You could, as some of the ladies suggested, have your friend stand up on your side as a Bride’s Attendant or "Bridesman". Or he could be an usher, we did that for my cousin (whom I’m really close with) as a way to include him. I have a very close guy friend from college and I did a reading at his wedding. He asked me because he wanted to include me in the ceremony, but since I barely knew his fiancee, I wasn’t going to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 7
Hmm…how do I include him in the PB stuff – what would he do during the rehearsal then? I don’t want to do a guy on the girls’ side of things b/c we’re not as superclose now that he’s moved away..