- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
ok so I am new to this website, just found it at work and realized there are A LOT of other women in the same boat as me! Geez what’s wrong with these men?!? But I need some advice… I’ll sum up our relationship as best as I can for everyone because my departure date is Jan 1st, and I don’t know if i’m actually ready to follow through…
We have been dating since freshman year of college, almost 7 1/2 years now. Although, I have to say the college dating was not that serious, only the last 3 1/2 years or so have been really serious. We’re both 25, we both completed our masters together and bought our first house together 14 months ago. I thought buying the house together and moving in was a huge step forward, but now im thinkin I prob should have waited, you know the whole “why buy the cow when you get the milk for free” thing. heard it a million times.
But anyways we’re best friends. Get along sooo good and living together has been absolutely wonderful, not a lot of problems at all. We are both the laid back type so that kinda helps. Although recently I have not been so laid back about one thing… COMMITMENT! “babe, i’m fully commited to you” is what he says. We have the conversation all the time because I am very open with my feelings to him. I told myself on my birthday last april, that I would ultimately give him until the end of the year to propose, then I would move out if nothing happened. Well the end of the year THIS weekend!
I cried about it the other night, and he saw me and got really worried why I was so upset. We once again had the convo and he said he was so sorry, he never meant to keep procrastinating and admitted he had just been comfortable in day to day life and just never really made a move to buy a ring. We’ve been ring shopping. I gave him a choice of four and all he has to do is pick one of the four. Money should not be a problem, he has a very good job, although we do have student loans, but he has gotten 2 promotions in the past year so money is not an excuse for him.
sorry this is so long but should I stick it out another couple of weeks to give him some time to actually buy the ring now that he admitted how lazy he’s been about it and promises to make a move?? BTW, I want a yellow diamond which has to be specially ordered where we live, so if he were to make a move, it would prob take more than a week to get the ring… ugh, see I keep making excuses for him!!
Or, should I stick to my dd and move out? Can’t picture my life without him, we’re best friends and we have a great relationship. But the whole not commiting thing has made me so upset lately (as i’m sure a lot of you can relate!) that I’m wondering if I would be happier in the long run… any advice would be greatly appreciated! HELP HELP HELP!!