Post # 1
Hi all, my partner and i are trying to work out what to do…
We have looked at budgets (were paying for the wedding entirely ourselves) and over the weekend realised that if we were to book our wedding for next summer (ideally my choice of months would be april-june time) it would be massivly stretching us finincially- my SO said it would mean us scraping together alot!
however, if we wanted to wait until the following year it would be alot more relaxed and easier to save for.
now i am really impatient, and i hate waiting for things, i also never liked the idea of a long engagement, but i am starting to see his point of view, and i know that when weve no money (becasue were saving every pound!)i will not be a nice bunny!
what would you do? or have you been in this situation yourselves?
Post # 3
The 18 months will fly by and you’ll be better able to have the wedding you want. My engagement was 18 months and I am also very impatient and we’re paying for it ourselves. Only these last two months has the waiting seemed excruciating, because its so close:) The rest passed in the blink of an eye! Also, something will come up moneywise so its better to have more time to save.
Post # 4
@mollypuppy: Also you will also be less stressed getting everything done to get ready for the wedding! 18 months is a win win! Did you know the average engagement is 16 months? (I think, maybe 14?) So 18 is not so bad! I’m in a 2 year engagement and we are also really enjoying the time being engaged together. It’s so fun, with all the excitement, and knowing he’s commited, but still not being married yet! And I think the long wait makes it so much more worthwhile. I feel like we are really growing during this time into the couple that we want to be when we get married!
Post # 5
We’re having an 18 month engagement. I think it’s a great length to save up/pay for things over time, do projects, and not have to rush things and stress out. And, if something bad happens, you have time to get it fixed.
Post # 6
@mollypuppy: I would personally wait if you are saving money. It would be less stressful and it gives you more time to shop around! We aren’t engaged yet but will be before Christmas, so our engagement will most likely be 16-19 months long. It may seem far away right now but it will be worth it!
Post # 7
I would wait as well….you don’t want to be struggling trying to pay for your wedding. Save up and trust the time will fly!!! Me and fh have been engagfor since aug 2011 and we are getting married next year and althowere origin originally this year and pushed it back I’m glad because we really got a chance to save since we are paying for this ourselves and the time has really gone by quick.
Post # 8
We are having a 23 month engagement! If it was up to FI and I, we would be married next year. But we know that realistically, what’s a few more months to wait when you’ll get to spend the rest of your lives together? 18 months is nothing, it’ll fly. Around here, that’s considered short to average engagement length.