advice please? wait 18 months for wedding or 12?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: what would you do?
    wait 18 months and be comfortable (but maybe a bit impaitient about the delay) : (13 votes)
    72 %
    wait 12 months and just save my A** off : (3 votes)
    17 %
    elope : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The 18 months will fly by and you’ll be better able to have the wedding you want. My engagement was 18 months and I am also very impatient and we’re paying for it ourselves. Only these last two months has the waiting seemed excruciating, because its so close:) The rest passed in the blink of an eye! Also, something will come up moneywise so its better to have more time to save.

    Post # 4
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @mollypuppy:  Also you will also be less stressed getting everything done to get ready for the wedding! 18 months is a win win! Did you know the average engagement is 16 months? (I think, maybe 14?) So 18 is not so bad! I’m in a 2 year engagement and we are also really enjoying the time being engaged together. It’s so fun, with all the excitement, and knowing he’s commited, but still not being married yet! And I think the long wait makes it so much more worthwhile. I feel like we are really growing during this time into the couple that we want to be when we get married! 

    Post # 5
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We’re having an 18 month engagement. I think it’s a great length to save up/pay for things over time, do projects, and not have to rush things and stress out. And, if something bad happens, you have time to get it fixed.

    Post # 6
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @mollypuppy:  I would personally wait if you are saving money. It would be less stressful and it gives you more time to shop around! We aren’t engaged yet but will be before Christmas, so our engagement will most likely be 16-19 months long. It may seem far away right now but it will be worth it!

    Post # 7
    320 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would wait as well….you don’t want to be struggling trying to pay for your wedding. Save up and trust the time will fly!!! Me and fh have been engagfor since aug 2011 and we are getting married next year and althowere origin originally this year and pushed it back I’m glad because we really got a chance to save since we are paying for this ourselves and the time has really gone by quick. 

    Post # 8
    1107 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We are having a 23 month engagement!  If it was up to FI and I, we would be married next year.  But we know that realistically, what’s a few more months to wait when you’ll get to spend the rest of your lives together?  18 months is nothing, it’ll fly.  Around here, that’s considered short to average engagement length. 


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