- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
First off… Let me say thank you for all your posts. Your collective experiences have made myplanning process away smoother. Congrats to all you ladies On your engagements, weddings & anniversaries!!
My wedding is 45 days away. My RSVP deadline is in the next couple days. I am absolutely 100% excited about this.
Yesterday I lost the center stone to my beautiful halo ring. Devistated. Yes it’s insured but I’m making Costco replace it as “defective”. Ok that was a huge heart stopping downer. Fortunately I’m covered. thinking positive here. its a thing. Stay calm & sparkle on.
The thing that is just gnawing at my heart….No response from my BFF or any of my “girlfriends”.It’s like I’ve been unfriended and I just barely noticed.
When I announced my engagement, my BFF (of 20yrs) smiled and nodded. Then she disappeared into the shadows. I’ve called, emailed, texted and even tried Facebook. It’s been no reply to calls with voicemails or texts or a smile and nod reply on Facebook. I get it. You’re not interested. It’s been a year of this.
I have planned this wedding without any of my girlfriends. None. Ok. breathe. My SO says they’re just busy. I got myself to believe that for a while. I have more interest from a 15yo girl than from friends of 20 years. I was forced to go to my b list for bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor. not at all who I imagined being there for me…Up there with me in my big day. Thinking positive I’m surrounded by the people who loveme the most. For that, I am thankful. I’m not a bad person or self centered. I’m more of a bratzilla than a bridezilla. Overall i’m a fairly normal girl who has apparently always had difficulties with female friendships. Jealousy perhaps?
Now with the deadline for my RSVP in the next couple days… I’ve yet to receive a reply If any of them are even coming.
Now with the shower….the bachlorette party….I dont know what to do. To continue friend or not to friend. That is the question. They’re local to me. My wedding is local. IDK. Lets not pretend here. I have yet to be direct about this and say wtf. I’m not sure it would matter. Who the does this? …..anyways.
Bees please tell me the truth I’m clearly too oblivious to recognize.
zero interest…thus far from the BFF…from them… Do I bother inviting them to the shower & bachelorette party?
I realize that I have to let go of the last group girlfriends I have. Which just …*sigh*
These haters gotta hate somewhere else. I have a wedding to plan.
Thank you for listening and your general awesomeness!!