Advice: Save the Dates for a Post, Private Destination Wedding Ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

MissPickleJean:  maybe something simple, like: 

Save the Date! 

We are getting married on (date) and would like you to join us for a celebration on (date) at/in (place)

Post # 3
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MissPickleJean:  You cannot say that you’re getting married because you already are married.  Your courthouse wedding was your wedding.

I would say something like “save the date to join us in celebrating our marriage”.  It does not say that a wedding will take place and I think any other type of wording will have your guests think that they will be witnessing an actual marriage ceremony instead of what you’re doing, which is essentially a vow renewal.

Post # 4
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6034 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would skip the Save The Dates entirely. it seems a bit off-putting to exclude everyone from your wedding and your “symbolic” wedding but then want them to clear their calendars for your celebration. 

Post # 7
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679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you’re guests are not attending the “symbolic” ceremony either then I think just focusing on having a celebration is the way to word them.  However, I think it’s kind of rude to not have them attend the “symbolic” ceremony and just ask them to the party like Horseradish said.

Post # 9
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

“We are getting married on (October date) in (city and state of your legal ceremony)! Save the date for a celebration of our marriage on (date of reception) in (Ohio location)!”

or, if you consider the ceremony in Mexico to be your “real” wedding:

“We are getting married in a private ceremony on (date) in (Mexico)! Save the date for a celebration of our marriage on (date of reception) in (Ohio location)!”

That way people in Ohio know that you are getting married in a faraway location, and it’s not just that you are having a local wedding but are excluding them from the ceremony. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I could not agree with Caritas anymore… Certainly do that! Sometimes on here, people get confused and ask follow-up questions. Other times people become more concerned with etiquette than the real reason the OP asked for advice. This happens all the time on WB. Anyway, congrats on your wedding!!! The after-party sounds like it will be a ball!

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