Post # 1
I’m having a small wedding party. 2 BM, 1 MOH. Having said that, my FI has 3 sisters of whom I did not ask none of them to be a BM. I’m thinking of asking 1. Because I want to include at least one of them. Has anyone else done this?
Should I or don’t bother?
Post # 3
I would personally choose all or none. Thats what I did, I have 2 of FI’s sisters as bm’s and two friends in my wedding party.
Post # 4
I’d do all or none too. Why not head off potential headaches and hurt feelings?
Post # 5
Unless you are obviously closer to one of them, you should ask all or none. Don’t do it just a for the token gesture (aka bridging the families). They’ll understand you have other close friends. Just include them in all your wedding events (shower, rehersal, etc)
Post # 6
I would do all or none even if you are obviously closer to one of them. DH has 3 sisters – a twin (who lived with us for a little while and Im very close to) and 2 older sisters who are 7 and 8 years older than I am. I initially only asked his twin sister because I wanted to have a small bridal party. At first it seemed fine but then my MIL went crazy that his other 2 sisters were not asked. I dont know whether or not his sisters were offended but my MIL was offended for them. It was not a good situation. Avoid drama!!
Post # 7
All or none.
@PitBulLover: Wow, I would have thought the same thing, that since they were older, they wouldn’t have been offended. Yikes!
Post # 8
All or none… I have 3 brothers and DH has 2 sisters. We chose to do none… it still caused headaches because his older sister felt it was her “right” to be a bridesmaid. You’ll get a headache either way, but minimize it where you can.
Post # 9
I would have to say all or none! I wanted to ask my FI sister-in-law not even his sister but his other sister-in-law freaked! So now neither of them are in my wedding party lol