- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I’m normally a patient person. But days like this, I just can’t keep it in. I hate my MIL. There, I said it! She’s a despicable person. She looks down at everyone, thinks she knows everything, and for many years, used to having her way. She has 3 grown sons and a husband that does eveything she wants. Just a subtle hint and they’re off to do what she wants done.
Even when I first met her, she would look at me like a thief about to steal something. I would go out of my way to please her, I would try to be helpful, considerate, always reminding my DH to call her, buy her flowers whenever we see her and making husband hand it to her even if I bought and picked it out.
It took two years to realize this woman is just awful. She’s never liked me, and in the beginning she was slick at disguising it – cutting comments only when I’m in the room to hear, gives me looks when she thinks I’m not looking. I thought I was imagining things! Being too sensitive. “There’s no way someone that vile can raise such a wonderful man!”, I thought.
I wasn’t imagining it and I just don’t know how to deal with it! How do I deal with it? Can someone please offer me some words of wisdom?! I don’t even want to explain how she last disrespected me! Thinking of her churns my stomach! Do I just ignore it? She is my MIL afterall?! Do I refuse to see her again and create a drift in the family?
I would never have DH chose, and never have ever hinted at it. I know she will always be his mother but I can no longer pretend! We live in the same city! There’s birthdays, holidays, all of it. Do I just not go?
I should also mention that we moved to my husband’s hometown, where I know no one. He’s closer to his family and found a great job here, it made sense and to me, it was worth the sacrifice. But with MIL trying to dominate all of our weekends, and spending anymore time with her is like getting a root canal, this is too much of a sacrifice.
Here I thought we’d live happily ever after, just the two of us and our future family. What do I do?