(Closed) advice??? worried about crying too much at wedding

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I may need some pointers as well. I’m worried I’ll be bawling big time and unable to say my vows. I am marrying my SO on our 10 year anniversary, and I’m worried I’ll be a disaster. Help! If I loved him less, there wouldn’t be a problem lol.

Post # 4
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

LOL I have to giggle..I’m curious too

Post # 6
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Newbee

So, i hardly ever comment on the boards, just mainly lurk. This was a huge worry of mine before I got married (2 weeks ago tomorrow!). So let me preface by saying that I cry at every.single.wedding. my mom has told me for years about how she wishes she hadn’t cried during her ceremony, apparently she cried throughout the whole thing. The pressure has been on me for awhile! Leading up to the wedding, I really tried to visualize everything, bc we’ve obviously thought about every last detail a million times over. I cried while writing my own vows, picking out music, hearing our first dance song, reading over the nontraditional readings.. You name it, it all made me cry. but then there I was, walking down the aisle, all smiles 🙂 even when my then Fiancé choked up during his vows, I just had to take a deep breath and say mine how I had envisioned. So here is my advice ladies: keep visualizing your day. When it all generally comes together as planned, you’ll feel calmer and like it’s working out perfectly. And the morning will seriously fly, when you see the clock ticking by faster than ever, you’ll become anxious and excited, which I feel like keeps the tears away. Also, we did pictures beforehand, which I felt helped the emotions. But most importantly, what helped me not cry was my expectations of the day and what it meant. We’re all told to feel like its the ‘best day of our lives’, and don’t get me wrong, it’s great and awesome, but that one day doesn’t define your relationship with your husband. It means a lot, but its not going to change your relationship. You’ll wake up the next day and you’ll be together, and all that is different is the legality of it. I think it’s safe to say that many of us made our commitment to our partners long before our wedding day. 🙂 so all of this helped take the pressure off the day. Sure it was emotional, but mainly bc I was so excited to marry my guy! Hoping this helps 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i remember reading in another thread that if you press your tongue up against the roof of your mouth it can help?

im worried about crying too!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kristin77:  so true

I was soooo worried i was gonna bawl my eyes out because that’s all i had done leading up to the day…. when i was looking for music, writing my vows, writing our ceremony script, EVERYTHING.  Then the day of…. i found i was too busy, and time went by too fast, to cry!  i’m surprised i did not cry at all walking up the aisle, and during the ceremony.  

I did cry after the ceremony when my brother came to talk to me.  It’s a long story, but we aren’t close at all, he distanced himself from the family years ago…. I invited him thinking he wouldn’t come anyway, and he did… as soon as he came over to me after the ceremony it all came out.  

Then i just cried during a couple speaches from my sisters and MOH. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I sobbed when picking songs and writing my vows. To this day I get teary when I hear the song we walked in to our reception to on the radio! I was SO fearful of crying…so was DH!! On our wedding day we were so happy and such a bundle of nerves that those feelings took over. Tons of people were sobbing and DH and I made it without a single tear! I only cried when I danced with my grandfather during the grandaughter/grandfather dance. Hopefully you will be fine too!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 I don’t know if you can really prepare yourself for the day. I just remeber feeling as though I was in a dream. Not sure if any other bride has felt the same.

I too thought I was going to cry…i cried while planning everything just like you. Music, vowes, the look on my dad’s face, the look on my FI face…but that day (8/12/12) came and went so fast there was no time to cry. I got a little tearied eyed here and there but never bawled. I actually surprised myself with how poised I was.

the best advice I can give is just to have a fun, awesome & terrific day becoming his wife. It really goes by fast and do your best to not worry too much about it. many blessings to you!

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