Advices needed choosing my e ring size 4.5.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Daisyoz:  I’m not a 4.5 but I wear a 5.25, which is quite similar. My band is 2 mm and it is very dainty & narrow. I imagine the your ring above is 2.6 mm at its widest point and there are plenty of narrower parts. I do not think it will be too big for your finger.

However, your comments abvout cleaning and working in healthcare make it clear that the design isn’t suitable for your everyday wear. I would ask your FI to use some of his budget to buy you a white gold/platinum chain (whichever your ring is made from) so that you can place it on this when you can’t wear it on your finger. Alternatively, I’d consider getting a low-set bezel setting so it doesn’t snag on things and you can wear it beneath gloves. I wouldn’t want an engagement ring I couldn’t wear very much; I’d rather buy one that fitted in with my lifestyle.

My diamond is 0.42 ct, which is small for the Bee but perfect for me. It looks a lovely size for the width of my band. I think as long as your diamond is in proportion to the band, you will be fine. I’d be looking at around 0.6 ct+ with a wider band.

Post # 4
219 posts
Helper bee

@Daisyoz:  if you have very long and thin fingers, you could go quite thick in the band and it will still look dainty and feminine. If your fingers are like mine: short!!! then maybe stick to something with a thin pave band? Best of both worlds!

I love @sugarpea ‘s solitaire with pave band. Would look really good on small yet short fingers

Post # 5
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A 1.5 RB will look large on your small fingers, I would go try on some rings of that size to check its the look you’re wanting.

My band grades from 2.5-2mm with pave and I have a 6.5 finger and sometimes I wish I might have had a narrower band but apparently the jeweller recommended nothing smaller than 2mm for strength of setting with the little diamonds in the band. 

As for cleaning, I have a soft baby toothbrush which I use with normal hand soap to give it a scrub every few days. I have no issues with dirt and I wear my ring ALL the time 

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

4.5 is your finger’s width size. This size does not take in account finger length. One can have a thin short finger or a thin slowing finger.  I would suggest going to a brick and mortar store and try on rings in many width. Good luck and have fun shopping.

Post # 7
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m 4.5 size and this is a square brilliant 1.3ct on me

I’m a nurse and I don’t wear this to work It’s really not suitable.

i wouldn’t get anything bigger than 0.5ct for work.

Post # 8
12884 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Knowing what I know now, I would choose a smaller band if you want the stone to look large with the wedding band.  Alone I think it’ll look great, but if you get a matching wedding band the same thickness, I think the stone could get a bit lost.  At least that’s how I feel about mine.  If you plan on plain band, it could work.

Post # 9
2927 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I wear a 3.5, the e-ring thickness is about 1.7mmish, but my band is a simular style you are looking  at and I think it is 2.5mm….my main stone is a 1ct square celebration cut diamond.

different view

Post # 10
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Daisyoz:  I love the ring you posted!  

I’m a size 4.25 (I could have gone with a 4, but I wanted to make sure my ring would still fit if my fingers swell for any reason in the future).  I’m honestly not sure of the thickness of my band, but it’s fairly thin and dainty … And that’s exactly what I wanted!  (Though my fiance and I picked out my ring together, so I obviously chose something I loved!)

As for center stone, mine is an emerald cut diamond, 0.75 ct.  The tcw of the engagement ring is right around 1.00.  

I work in a chemistry lab, so I wear gloves constantly at work (and work with a ton of dangerous chemicals).  Because of this, I never wear my engagement ring to work.  I also don’t plan to wear my wedding band to work.  My fiance works in healthcare and won’t be wearing his wedding band to work either.  I definitely understand not wanting to wear it if it would potentially get damaged!  

Here is a picture of mine on my hand for reference:

Post # 11
1255 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I am a 4.5 and I have a thin band (about 2mm), which I love. My ring is pave and it does need to be cleaned often, but I love it and wouldn’t have it any other way. My stone is 1.77 and it does look large, but that is what I was going for. I imagine the 1.5 in the setting you chose will be gorgeous on your finger. Can’t wait to see it when you get it!!


Post # 12
23 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

First of all, super excited for your engagement!!  It took my fiancé and I several months before finding “the ring”, and the wait was definately worth it because I found the perfect ring.  Don’t get me wrong, there were times I would get antsy and impatient!  But take your time when ring shopping; try on all kinds of different rings and styles, go to all different kinds of jewelers/jewelry stores.  You never will truly know how it looks or if you like it until once its on your finger.  Choosing a ring is a big decision and you’ll be wearing this for the rest of your life! Maybe it will even get passed down?

Anyway, that being said, I wear a 4.5 and have a 0.85 carat center stone (princess cut). The setting has 1 carat of smaller round and princess cut diamonds.  I like a lot of bling, and at first I really wanted at least a 1 carat or 1.5 Carat center stone.  My fiancé was fine with that. However when I found my setting, I fell in love and had that moment where I knew I had found THE ONE. It could of held a 1 carat or 1.5 but would of looked weird. The jeweler had found this 0.85 stone that fit perfectly in the setting (he had also made sure the colors of the diamonds in the setting matched).    

I’m totally in love with my ring, and it still looks like a “big” stone because of the way it is set and my small hands. Of course I wouldn’t turn down a bigger rock, but I am thrilled at the way my e-ring turned out and can’t stop staring at it!!  People always think it’s at least 1 carat or 1.25. They are surprised to hear its not.  

You are lucky because any size diamond would look great on you. So if youre man is willing to get a 1.5 I say go for it!!  It will look very nice on your petit fingers!  Especially with the setting that you like from Blue Nile, it would be absolutely stunning.  Keep us posted on the ring shopping!!   

Post # 13
23 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Post # 14
23 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yikes sorry i can’t figure out how to make my uploaded pic smaller or flip it.  Anyway, get the e-ring that you WANT. Don’t let your job influence you on your ring!!!  You don’t have to wear it everyday to work, you could just buy a simple band (or even a cz band) just to wear around work. No one would even know the difference and who cares anyway.  Also, I love the other Bees’s suggestion of buying an inexpensive chain and wearing your e-ring around your neck during work. That way you will always have it with you and it’s safe. 

Post # 15
4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That ring looks beautiful!  My ring size is 4.75 so very similar to yours, and the band on my e-ring is 3mm.  Combined with my wedding band the total width is 5mm.  I don’t think it’s too thick for me and I think it would look great on you.

Post # 16
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it will look lovely! Does it have a band to match? Just asking because we had issues with my original ering and decided to reset so I could have a matching band. My ering and wedding band are 2.5 mm each. My ring size is 5 (4.75 in the winter) and my center stone is 1.03 ct.





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