- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Summary: going to City Hall before “real” wedding (visa purposes), trying to figure out how to celebrate without overshadowing the official wedding!
I’m from California, FI’s from Northern England, and we currently live in Massachusetts (where we met). No matter where we hold the wedding, people won’t be able to come. Our plan is to have the official wedding in California so all my relatives and friends can come, and his closest family and friends will make the trek (timed perfectly to their spring vacation!). We’re also going to have a blessing in England a couple months after the CA wedding, per the suggestion of my FMIL, so we can celebrate with his extended family and friends who couldn’t make it to the CA wedding. It’s basically a vow-renewal type thing: I get to wear my dress again (yay!), everyone gets all fancy, we have our marriage blessed at a church, then party! Finally, we’re also going to have a mini party (super low key, potluck food & alcohol, I’m going to make a wedding cake because I REALLY want to make one but I’m not crazy enough to attempt to do that before the “real” wedding when I’m stressed with all the other details of organizing a wedding from across the country!) in Massachusetts so we can invite all our current friends out here to that instead of the (more expensive per person, trying to keep small) California wedding. So we’re thinking: CA wedding (April), party in MA (April or May), blessing in England (July-ish).
We are planning to move to England a few months after the CA wedding, so for visa purposes, we’re going to hit up City Hall before the CA wedding to get the ball rolling on paper work (name change, visa application) and make sure we can leave when we want to. We want to keep our California wedding as the “official” one, so we don’t know how seriously to take the City Hall wedding. We’re thinking we won’t wear our rings or call each other husband/wife yet, but I sort of want to do SOMETHING to celebrate, just because we should somehow commemorate the day we’re legally married, right? Do you have any ideas how to make the City Hall ceremony feel important/special/significant while still keeping the California wedding feeling like the day we’re actually married? Should we take photos? Keep it simple (go out to dinner, or something equally small)? Tell anyone (besides immediate family)? Just go, sign the papers, and pretend like it didn’t really happen?
We are going to have SO many days to celebrate anniversaries on, haha. Poor FI will never remember them all!! Anyway, any advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated!
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