Advise please

posted 3 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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941 posts
Busy bee

Sorry Bee, but your mom will be stuck with that bill unless you have some document with his parents signatures saying they would pay for something. His parents are not obligated to pay for anything. Sell the rings, maybe you can foot some of the bill with the money you’d get from that.

Post # 3
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Hold on, under certain state laws your fiancé still has title to your engagement ring until you’re actually married.  Wait on selling until you meet with an attorney. 

Post # 5
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3192 posts
Sugar bee

kdavenport109 :  The multiple posts are confusing, Bee. Are you pregnant? You said you lived with him but your children didn’t–where did they live? 

Post # 7
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3192 posts
Sugar bee

kdavenport109 :  It’s pretty unusual for a father to get custody over the mother–can you help us understand what is going on here? It may tie into your FIL’s concerns re: the marriage. 

Post # 8
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1365 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

kdavenport109 :  in the state of New Jersey, the engagement ring is a CONDITIONAL gift (the condition being marriage). If a couple breaks up before they get married, the ring belongs to the giver, not the recipient, regardless of reason or party responsible for the dissolution of the engagement. The ring is his until you get married. If you get married, the ring becomes yours, even in the event of divorce. It is also not considered as a marital asset in divorce proceedings (it is ENTIRELY the sole property of the recipient). 

The ring belongs to him. You don’t get to keep it, even if he is a douche. 

Post # 9
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559 posts
Busy bee

This sounds like a mess of a man. It sounds like he wants to rebel against his familial expectations by trying to marry Shiska but can never handle the blowback. First trying to get that tattooed girl pregnant and now you, a Catholic girl. It sucks that he left you with all the bills and pregnant but it sounds like he would have been a spineless and crappy husband anyways. 

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