Post # 1
okay so my soon to be brother in law is has just joined the army and is away at his on the job training right now and will need to fly in for our wedding.
I want all the wedding party to match, girls and guys. In the midst of discussing the grooms/ groomsmen attire i ask, how will we get the measurments for my future bil, to my fiance. He immediatly gets offended and says , “what do you mean? He is wear his army dress blues (the army dress suit), he dosen’t need to be measured”. This thought had never crossed my mind. I pictured everyone in the same thing. I am not sure if i like that idea. But I am wondering if i should just compromise and let him wear the dress blues anyways , if it will make DH happy. What are the thoughts on that? Should i want him in a tux with everyone else, or will that be okay to let him wear it with out a fuss. My coworker said just put him at the end of the line up so it looks better, or have him wear a tux for the wedding /pictures and then let him change into his dress blue uniform.
I must add that my fiancé is a army Iraqi war veteran, has been out of the service for a 8yrs now. We haven’t even asked his brother about this yet, my fiancé just immediately thinks he should want to wear his suit. I know that if my fiancé was still active he would await to wear his, but since he isn’t he obviously isn’t going to wear item .
Post # 3
I think it would be awesome if he wore is dress blues! And honestly, it’s your FI’s call. You get to pick what your girls wear, and he gets to pick what his guys wear. So if your FI wants him to wear his dress blues, then that’s what your FBIL should wear and you shouldn’t really fuss over it.
Post # 4
@RunsWithBears: Yup. Not really your call (unless your fiance chose the bridesmaid dresses!). And it seems like it’s pretty important to him.
My cousin had his wife’s brother as a groomsman at his wedding. He wore his Army dress blues, and it looked great in all the pictures. And if that’s the only thing that doesn’t turn out as you pictured it for your wedding, you’re lucky.