- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Apologies in advance for the rant. So long story short(ish?):
I decide I am going to have Jasmine’s make my BMs dresses, because I can’t find any close to the mint color I want that aren’t bland.
I send in pictures of five 1950s dresses to have replicated in chiffon. I realize this is a bit of a special snowflake-type of request, but whatever. They could have said no at any time. But they told me that they could make them.
They quoted me $120 for each dress. My girls had budgets of around $180. I decided to upgrade to designer craftsmanship so that I wasn’t buying completely blind–we won’t have time to send them back. I told the girls the price and decided to just eat the $50 shipping cost myself, on account of the fact that I didn’t want any of them to go over budget.
I had requested chiffon, for a really soft, flowy look (and because I had read that there was little difference between the cheaper premium and the designer grade in chiffon.) I held a meeting with my girls to pick a color, and we went back and forth several times.
Later, I am sent a final quote, and it’s at this time that I am asked to pick from the ORGANZA swatch book. At this point, I become really afraid, because organza is much shinier than chiffon, but since they have a green that is close to what I want, I finally decided “whatever.” But I said that I didn’t want ANY sort of shiny layer to be visible underneath–I wanted to diminish the shininess as much as possible. I was told that designer organza is much less shiny, but that it would be an extra 30% per dress. Keep in mind, I’ve already told the girls the price–so I would have to eat this cost, as well. I decide to keep the premium grade and simply cross my fingers.
Next, I am notified that in order for my dresses to look like the photos, I am going to have to buy an underskirt that is not included in the price. It’s going to be $30 for an off-white one, or $38 for one the color of dress. Now, the full silhouette of the dresses is what I love about them. I wasn’t willing to compromise that on top of everything else. So I am selling some things on Ebay in order to make up the difference–because I had already told my girls the price and I didn’t feel it was right to increase it latert. But this is the first I am hearing about this. I know on the website, it says underskirts aren’t included, but I didn’t want a separate underskirt–I wanted tulle sewn into the dress to make it full. IMO that’s not an underskirt. I kind of feel like I should have been told about the upcharge from the beginning, since these are obviously very full dresses and I did order replicas.
I finally came to peace with all of this, until today. I got an email saying that the dresses needed to have satin under the organza.
WTF. The only reason I accepted changing from chiffon to organza in the first place was under the condition that the underneath layer not be shiny, and SATIN IS SHINY. Here is a picture of (what I understand is) organza over satin:
Apologies to whomever I borrowed this from; I am pretty upset and don’t remember.
Anyway- The sheer/shininess of it all? Super cute for little girl. On a grown woman, it’s going to look like Prom circa 1997.
I am pretty much heartbroken. All of my ladies are going to be so disappointed, because I promised them an adorable 1950s replica dress, and they’re going to be getting something that looks like the bags they give you Jordan Almonds in. And the only way to avoid it is to spend EVEN MORE money I don’t have to get the fabric changed to designer.
To clarify, I don’t expect a perfect replica. I don’t even expect it to get super close without having to pay for it (hence me upgrading to designer craftsmanship.) I feel like I have been super chill about the changes, unanticpiated “add-ons” and ambiguity up to this point (I didn’t even order fabric swatches in the interest of time, because I was willing to accept “close enough.”)
But now I see all these bees making these minute little changes to dresses that pretty much look perfect to me–but I can’t even GET to that point because I keep having things changed on ME.
I kind of regret this. If I wasn’t going to get the look I wanted, I kind of wish I had saved us a whole lot of time, money and stress and just gone to David’s Bridal. And the crappy thing is that it took me so long to decide which color I wanted (TWICE!) without looking at swatches, and by now I COULD HAVE ORDERED THE SWATCHES AND THEY’D HAVE BEEN HERE BY NOW. *headdesk*
I didn’t ever want perfect. I wanted soft, flowy mint green dresses. These dresses won’t be soft. These dresses won’t be flowy. And since I didnt get swatches, they might not even be mint green!
I know a lot of people have had good luck and beautiful dresses made, but at this point I just can’t see this ending well. Any words of encouragement?