Afraid it will never happen

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sparklypinkkitty:  Definitely! Y’all haven’t discussed marriage AT ALL?? I find that strange since you’re talking about buying a house. A house is a HUGE committment!

Definitely talk to him and find out where your relationship is going before you make the leap to home ownership. You don’t want to be dealing with the hassle of owning a home if you are not headed for marriage. 

Post # 5
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703 posts
Busy bee

@sparklypinkkitty:  it doesn’t have to be a huge emotional confrontation, which it will turn into if you don’t discuss it soon. Just bring it up casually when he pictures you being engaged/married by. If you’re not happy with those timelines, tell him yours and explain you’ll need to compromise. The ball isn’t always in the mans court. We’re entitled to have a say in our future too!

Post # 6
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@sparklypinkkitty:  I got my proposal the week before we closed on our first house 🙂  I would definitely just talk to your SO about it, you never know if he just might be planning for both at the same time.

Post # 7
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Definitely talk about it! I started to think about it one day and just kinda asked him where he was at and if he thought of marriage. He planned to propose this winter (couldn’t believe he was thinking about it!) but since I wanted to get engaged he proposed last October (2 months after I first asked about it). It’s definitely possible to buy a ring and house with proper saving/payment plans, etc. Just see where he’s at. If he says he can’t because he’s buying a house or isn’t ready to settle down, etc I would have an issue with his priorities.

Post # 9
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sparklypinkkitty:  unless you would like to sit back and let someone else plan out YOUR future, then yes, you need to talk to him to make sure you are on the same page.

Post # 10
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180 posts
Blushing bee

@badabing88:  +1

 If you’re going to have a future together, you need to be open about what you expect from the relationship.  If you’re able to discuss buying property, you should be comfortable discussing marriage.

Post # 11
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920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

@sparklypinkkitty:

Before buying a house you should discuss what type of timeline you both expect.  He may not want to get married.  I’m not saying he doesn’t want to be with you but some people really don’t want to get married.

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