Post # 1
I think I just found my dream venue. It’s one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever seen, seems to allow open food and alcohol catering and…wait for it….only costs $1500 a day.
Then I Googled weddings at the location, and found this:
And the bride has a dress so similar to mine. And it works perfectly.
The only problem is that this is an hour and a half from home, and I’m afraid no one will care enough to travel that far. It’s going to be an hour and a half drive for most of my family, and two hours for SO’s family. I don’t know what to do! The places in Tulsa are all either much less beautiful, or else they’re an arm and a leg to rent (Cheapest being $5000, and it’s only about half as pretty). There’s a venue in my hometown that would be about 2 minutes from my family and about an hour for SOs family. It’s plain, but it’s only $35 an hour. However, there’s no place to do the ceremony, and the outside is just a parking lot with nary a tree or patch of grass in site.
Part of me thinks it won’t matter anyway because a lot of people didn’t come to my sister’s wedding, and it WAS local. What would you do?
Post # 3
It’s a beautiful venue! I would book it just for the pictures! And if 1-1/2 or 2 hour drive is too much for some people, I would begin to look at them differently, it’s not that long of a trip! You are not asking them to go to Alaska, or Australia!
Post # 4
heck, I drive an hour each way to work every day. You best better believe I’d drive an hour and a half/two hours to a wedding.
Post # 5
book it- its your day- have it where YOU WANT IT. more then half our guests have a 1.5 hr drive.. they knew up front.
my previous wedding- Everyone had 1.5-2 hr drive an we had 125 people. I would again just let them know up front… and set up hotel arrangements..then enjoy your day!
Post # 6
I say have the wedding you want where you want it and the people that really matter will be there to celebrate. An hour and a half isn’t that far in the grand scheme of things and I’ve found in general, if you build it they will come!
Post # 7
It’s beautiful… If you don’t book it you will always regret it. 🙂
Post # 8
Its that Kate’s dress?
I LOVE IT.
I’d book wherever you want. THe important people will make the effort to be there.
Post # 9
I wanted a wedding in San Francisco (a 2 hour drive) and decided to stay local and more plain just because I thought nobody would come. I understand what you are going through. Then again, one of my biggest fears is that my reception will be boring and empty so even though I’m local I’m still worried.
Post # 10
People will come! My wedding involves flights for most people (significant travel), and even now, 6 months out, hotel rooms are booking up. I would make it earlier in the day (Afternoon wedding) to accomodate people driving back after, though
Post # 11
Get the venue you like. Often times people have to go with venues about an hour outside of town because its AFFORDABLE. Its a wedding, its free food and fun, people who don’t want to drive an hour and half for that are just plain silly. Also if less people come you don’t have to pay for their meal but you might still get a gift- ha!
If I had to guess you should worry more about people leaving early (so they don’t have to make the drive back tired) then people not showing up. Is there a little hotel or motel near by that you could get a group rate at? People might be more likely to come and stay late if they can crash near the wedding site.
Ultimately you are not asking anyone to go way out of their way. You have to do what makes sense for your budget.
Post # 12
The best advice I’ve received as far as the wedding goes is “its about you and your FI, and as long as you both are happy, nothing else matters”. That being said, if you want to get married in a particular way, in a particular setting, then people will have to accept that. If they care about you, they will show up. If you will be happier getting married at that location with fewer people possibly showing up than you would at a local place with potentially more people showing up, then do it at your dream location! You don’t want to be disappointed—this is the ONE day that is about YOU and your FI. So make it about you both and not about what the guests would prefer!!! 🙂 Now, if I could just follow my own advice 😉
Post # 13
Here are some pics. Be still, my heart…
Post # 14
We had people drive 5 hrs and they weren’t even family. It shocked the heck out of us, but they did it. Especially for a beautiful location… it’s totally worth it.
Post # 15
@EffieTrinket: Whoa. Yeah. I’d book it.
Post # 16
@EffieTrinket: seriously??? BOOK IT! it’s stunning!