(Closed) Afraid no one will come…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We got married on a Friday in early December. It was a semi-destination wedding — most guests had to drive at least 2-3 hours and stay overnight. I knew I was asking a lot right before the holidays, plus it was the first day of Hanukkah and several of my close friends are Jewish. But the truth is, the people you really want to be there – those who are closest to you – WILL be there. So don’t sweat it!! Everything will be okay. Tongue out

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

How many invites are you sending out? If you just sent the STD’s out maybe a lot of people haven’t been able to respond yet.. Its so easy to get stressed out with this wedding planning stuff especially when it comes to making sure everyone can come.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t stress yet.

 

1. It’s a long time till then, people will change their mind a million times.

 

2. The important people will come, and that’s what really matters.

 

Congratulations, lady, you’re getting married! That’s the best part.

Post # 6
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5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

it is a friday daytime wedding or evening?  i feel like most people who would comment on a STD would be the ones who are warning you in advance they cant come- dont fret!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: Good point. I’ve gotten similar responses and haven’t even thought of it! People who can come (or might come) haven’t said a thing at all. I’ve only gotten no’s. No worries!

 

Somewhere there’s a website that will help you calculate the likelihood of people attending.

I can’t find the site right now, but it’s like… 85% of in town guests and 35-65% of out of town guests will say yes. And then, in the end, 10% of the yeses may no show in the end, even though you got them food and everything.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is my fear too! 

Post # 11
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m scared that all of my college friends (who I was really close to) won’t come. It has been 3 years since I’ve graduated and probably two years since we’ve talked face-to-face. But I still want to see them at my wedding! I guess I can’t let myself be too disappointed if they don’t show up.

You have a while until your wedding, so hopefully people will take advantage of that and take off work. How can they already “have” to work if it’s so far away? I think they’ll show 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have an irrational fear about this.  Probably because I had a family birthday party one year and only my grandma and my parents were there.  No aunts and uncles and cousins like usual.  It was just a miscommunication and I didn’t think it was a big deal, but when like three people that said they were gonna come to my engagement pary didn’t show and like 10 maybes I was kind of freaked out about it.  Ever since then I’ve had this huge fear that getting people to RSVP and actually show up will be a nightmare.  I just have this horrible vision of the room half empty like it was at my engagement party.  Luckily my wedding is on a saturday in june and most people are local.  I’m hoping the engagement party thing was just because people though eh we’ll just go to the wedding and not like eh she throws lame partys lets stay home.

So basically my point is that you’re definitely not alone.  I think because I have this fear I tend to maximize it when someone says they can’t come.  Then I feel like no one is coming because 5 people in a row out of 200 said they wouldn’t make it.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it yet.  You could always come up with a B and C list for if people start RSVPing no.  Like PP said, all the important people will be there anyways.

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