Post # 1
At times, I get frustrated planning my wedding! There never seems enough time in my days and as you all know, TONS of things to get done!! Everytime I do anything wedding related, I think about this wonderful man I am about to spend the rest of my life with and my heart sings then the tears start to flow! I have a 17yr old daughter from my previous marriage she has asbergers (form of autisim) She has a very mild form of it and she is very much a regular teenager, has tons of friends, plays the piano, involved in school sports etc, she has had to overcome so much in her short life it doesnt bother her but as a mother it takes its toll on me I joke with her and say I’ll cry for the both of us:). My FI has always been there in my desperate hours and when I fall apart he is always there to put me back together:) He’s divorced and raised two daughters on his own. He’s truly amazing!! I love him so much!
My fear is when I see him on our day, I am going to start balling and won’t be able to say a word! I’m actually very afraid of this as simply writing this post is making me tear up. I feel like I’ve been all over the place with this post sorry but is anyone else in fear of this as well? Did this happen to you? What did/would you do?
Post # 3
I was exactly the same, when we were choosing our vows I was balling my eyes out!! I knew I would be an emotional wreck on the day and was dreading it. However, the day came and I shed one or two tiny tears down the aisle but I was absolutely fine when I reached my husband. I just smiled and smiled all the way through. Totally surprised myself. Point is you may surprise yourself too, an if you do end up crying, who cares! It’s an emotional day 🙂
Post # 4
I had this same fear, I’ve come to terms that I probably won’t be able to control it.
Well, if I was all alone with my fi, it would be fine. But I tend to be a social crier! As soon as I hear my mom sniffling or something, I’m going to ugly cry.
What makes it worse, is i’m pretty sure my FI will bust into tears when he sees me walking down the aisle. That’s just his way. If he does, then I will for SURE ugly cry. I just hope I’m not completely mortified by it!
Post # 5
Whatever you do, don’t do what I saw one girl on 4 Weddings do. she kept muttering ‘toothpaste, something something’ or something along those lines! OMG it was so funny. Apparently someone told her that saying that repeatedly would keep her from crying.
The preist is talking, her SO is talking and her lips keep moving and she’s muttering to herself. She looks CRAZY and she was crying.
Post # 6
@tronski: Thank you:) I may be too excited to cry! That would be great!! it just in case I think I’ll stuff a tissue someplace.
@jenilynevette: I have a feeling my FI will get emotional also, I think that’s why he wanted our guest list to be intimate. LOL ugly cry! Cute
Post # 7
@mrshollinger: LOL!!! Im actually watching Four Weddings now on TV.
Post # 8
I know I’m going to be really really emotional. I keep having dreams about crying – I watched father of the bride with my other half and we were both crying.
I think it’s touching when you see a bride who loves her man that much that it brings a tear to her eyes. I don’t think anyone could fault you for that. But try and think of something boring (like guys do during sex haha – sandwiches or something) while you’re walking down the aisle to distract yourself!
Either way I know you’ll have a beautiful day and it will be perfect!
Post # 9
@rangersbride: ROFL. I’d probably trip or something.
*walking down the aisle*
“Hm.. i wonder if I turned my curling iron of…..”
*falls flat on face*
Post # 10
@rangersbride: HA!! I’ll think about a salami sandwich !!! LOL!!! thanks!
Post # 11
Not sure what your ceremony will be like, but I was so afraid of bawling too – so we decided to skip a lot of personal vows and kept it to ‘I do’s’ and the ‘with this ring’s’ – that helped a lot and I was able to just smile!
Post # 12
I had the same fear… and not to mention DH picked out the theme song from Last of the Mohicans for me to walk down the aisle to, yeah make me cry MUCH.
It SO helped that my niece, 2 years old, said SOOO FLIPPING LOUD …. Oh there’s Aunty she’sssssss so pretty… SHe”s A PRINCESS…. (she said it like three times as I walked up the aisle) She was jumping up and down on her seat and waving at me … so yeah I started laughing.
ETA: our officiant started off .. with our blessing …… from princess bride … .”MWAIGE .. MWAIGE”
and …. during the ceremony my niece she said in her “inside voice” She’s a princes .. she gets her ring today daddy” thank god cause I was on the verge of tears.
Post # 13
@Birdi: I am probably going to cry… which is a bigger issue since we’re self-uniting and performing the whole freaking ceremony ourselves. Eep.
In my experience, if you want to lessen the effect: Think of something funny. NOT SOMETHING HAPPY, IT WILL MAKE IT WORSE. Something funny or stupid. A cat missing a jump or something. If you DO cry it’ll be like a cute giggle cry which looks better in pictures. Take deep, regular, slowish breaths and try to relax the muscles in your chest and neck.
Additionally, if you force an expression on your face, you actually begin to feel that. (Your body informs your brain about your emotions, it’s true.) So if you need to collect yourself, take a second and try to fake a really neutral, almost blank expression and it may help.
Post # 14
try clearing your throat.
Post # 15
@MrsWgetting married on the beach so it’ll be casual. we never talked about personal vows, I would rather not do them for the emotional factor. I think I’ll put my thoughts into a card for him.
@Bebealways: Wow! Good tips! I’ll try to think about funny. I think it’s wonderful you both are doing it yourselves! I think that would be even more emotional Though for me at least:)
@mrsrangrang: does that work? I know whenever I am about to sneeze in church I close my lips and quietly blow air through my mouth..Actually works!!
Post # 16
Ball your eyes out as much as possible beforehand. Like right now, if you need to cry, cry. If you hold it in, it will only be worse!