Post # 1
I am planning to TTC in January and I am so excited about pregnancy and being a mom, but I am terrified of having morning sickness. I have had an extreme fear of nausea and vomiting since I was a kid. I was introduced to Zofran in 2007 after a stomach bug, and we became best friends! Ever since then, I keep Zofran on me all the time, which eases my anxiety just knowing that it is available. I also take Ativan on rare occasions where I have bad nausea and/or anxiety because it also works as an anti-emetic. I know that I will not be able to take Ativan anymore when I am pregnant because it is not safe for the fetus. It makes me somewhat anxious knowing that it will no longer be an option to ease my anxiety related to vomiting. Unfortunately, I seem to be somewhat prone to nausea. The couple times in the past that I have doubled up on BCP in a day (as instructed if you miss a pill), it caused me to vomit. I am also prone to motion sickness. My mom suffered from MS when she was pregnant with me and my brother. These are all signs that I will likely get MS. To me, nausea is just the absolute most miserable feeling in the world. It is so anxiety provoking that you could suddenly vomit. Vomiting scares me because you have no control over it. Anytime I become nauseated, I feel like I can only handle it because I know that it will go away soon. But, with pregnancy it could go on for months or in bad cases, the entire pregnancy. The idea of that to me is like hell on earth. I am scared that I won’t be able to handle it. But at the same time, my desire to have children of my own is stronger than my fear. It comforts me that my parents and in laws are all doctors and will take good care of me if I do have bad MS. I am also comforted by my faith and my belief that God will help me overcome it. I have prayed for years that when the time comes, I will be able to deal with any MS or that it will be minimal to none. One thing I am wondering though, is if I will be able to handle MS better than other types of nausea/vomiting. I think a significant part of my anxiety comes from the thought that the cause might be a stomach virus or something that causes relentless vomiting. Maybe knowing that my precious baby is the cause of it will make it more tolerable? As opposed to the cause of the sickness being unknown… (Optimism!)
I have done quite a bit of reading on the boards and various websites about tips for dealing with MS such as not letting yourself get too hungry, eating small snacks often, eating/drinking ginger/ginger ale, vitamin B6/B12, preggie pops, acupuncture bands, etc. One plan I have is to keep saltine crackers on my nightstand and eat some before I even try to get up in the mornings.
Do y’all have any other suggestions? I guess I am looking for optimism or words of comfort more than anything because I refuse to let my fear get in the way of my dream of becoming a mom… but realism is welcome too. Feel free to ask questions.
Post # 2
I’ve never been pregnant but I just wanted to say that I am hugely emetophobic, so I feel your pain ❤️
Post # 3
greenmile12: Thank you. It’s always good to know that you’re not alone. 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve never been pregnant either but I have had phobias and anxiety. Would you consider getting treatment (therapy) for your fear? It might help in changing your mind set around nausea and vomiting as just something unpleasant rather than terror-inducing.
Post # 5
ltj14: My Mum is hugely emetophobic and cannot stand vomiting.. but when she got pregnant it was exactly like you’re hoping -> the fact of knowing that the nausea was caused by her precious baby meant she was able to just relax and let it be. Once she gave birth, the emetophobia came right back 🙂 And when she got pregnant with her second child, even though she did feel nauseous during pregnancy, again, she was able to relax and deal with it. I do believe that, as women, our bodies are designed to cope with pregnancy, including the nausea, childbirth and everything else.. because your maternal instinct will kick in and you’ll be more worried about the child than about yourself. 🙂
I hope that’s reassuring.. my advice to you would be to not worry about it in advance, and you will find, when the time comes, that you will be able to deal with it.
Post # 6
I’ve never been pregnant, but I’ve had a lot of stomach issues that resulted in nausea/vomiting. I would definitely recommend working on deep, meditative breathing. Yoga can help tremendously. Stress seems to always make nausea worse.
I’m the oldest of 4 and watched my Mom suffer from really bad morning sickness (Duchess Kate status). She’d always carry around a ginger root, bite into into, close her eyes, and do breathing exercises to get the nausea to pass. It didn’t always work, but it seemed to help often.
I’m totally with you though. After watching my mom, I’m so worried I’ll get it bad morning sickness.
Post # 7
I don’t have phobias but I do have HG (like Duchess Kate). It’s very rare to have HG – less than 2 percent of the population has it, and no one that I know has it. I have always had stomach problems, so there may be a relationship there. My mom had no morning sickness at all, so there may not be a relationship there. Nausea and vomiting in pregnancy is totally different from having a stomach bug though – it’s a different sensation and different triggers. There are lots of drugs (like Zofran) that you can take while pregnant to manage it.
Post # 8
Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply! Your replies have definitely eased my mind a bit. I appreciate it.
albee88: That is a good suggestion but I honestly don’t want to devote the time, money, and patience it would take to attempt therapy for it right now. And systematic desensitization is out of the question because I feel like exposing myself to it would be way more traumatic than helpful. If I watched videos of people vomit I know the images would haunt and torment my mind for days.
amanda3334455: Thanks so much 🙂 I find so much comfort in this. I hope this will be the case for me, and optimistically, I think it will be!!! I know I’ll get through it somehow.
aroger: Thanks. I will definitely try to practice deep breathing exercises!
MsKeee: Thank you. I’m so sorry you have to deal with HG. That is my worst nightmare. But, I don’t let that paralyze me. I know that like you said, it is very unlikely that I will have it that bad. I’m glad to know it isn’t the same feeling as having a stomach bug. Stomach bugs are such an out of control feeling that I hate. At least if I have MS I will expect it and know it’s for a good cause! Lol. I think it will be less anxiety producing as time goes on after I have experienced it for a few days and learn what triggers it and what eases it. I think that will help me manage better.
Post # 9
I totally feel for you.
I suffer from emetophobia and have an anxiety disorder. I get a full on panic attack before I vomit. I was worried about this too but decided that I wanted a baby more than anything. I got pregnant and didn’t have morning sickness at all. Until 38w, I got rare 3rd trimester morning sickness. I was prescribed diclectin (very similiar to zofran) and it was AMAZING. It went right away. I actually still have a bunch left over and take one on a rare occasion when I feel nauseous. (Bonus, they also make you drowsy so it helps me sleep if I’m nauseous at night).
The hardest part for me was when I was in labour. I heard stories that women vomit (from things like epidural or pushing) and I was panicking that this would happen to me. I even had a nurse say to me “You will throw up at some point today”. Well I lost it, I bawled and had a panic attack. Guess what? I didn’t throw up once! The experience is different for everyone, next pregnancy I’m not going to worry as much 🙂
Post # 10
ltj14: when i was pregnant with my daughter back in 2009, I never had Morning Sickness, not once. So hope is out there for you. But then again I wouldn’t say that I am easily nauseated either.
Post # 11
Hot ginger tea, sprite/ginger ale, salty pretzels and pimento stuffed green olives (maybe I am just weird that olives help) all help hormonal nausea whether it’s from PMS, period migraines or morning sickness. Doubling up on the BCP was awful for me in terms of nausea when I did it and from what I’ve heard, worse than the average MS. You have a great attitude despite your fear so I think you will enjoy being pregnant —and if you do still get MS which is physical not emotional, you will cope way more easily than you think and find remedies that help you feel less sick.
Post # 12
Oh and gummy bears. I’ve not been pregnant but I used to get evil migraines lol and fat free candy along with the remedies I listed above really helped prevent serious nausea and throwing up.
Post # 13
ltj14: Is it just your own vomiting that’s hard to handle, or other people’s too?
Because babies are pretty much little skinbags full of puke, poop, and pee.
And adorableness, but also the first three.
Post # 14
Not just babies, but children too.
If this is a serious issue for you, you need to think past pregnancy and birth (which, as a PP mentioned, often can also involve vomiting, especially as you go through transition) to parenthood. Pregnancy and birth, as important as they are, are just the warm-up phase. Babies “spit up” constantly – it’s a mild form of vomiting, and I guarantee you will end up covered in half-digested milk or formula multiple times if you have a baby. And kids get sick, and when they do, they need their mommies. You will need to mentally prepare yourself for the fact that you may or may not have to deal with morning sickness, but parenting is pretty much guaranteed to bring you face-to-face with your child(ren)’s nausea and vomiting on a semi-recurring basis for a number of years and more-or-less unpredictably.
Post # 15
I’m a nurse but I’m one of those nurses that never takes medication. I sometimes have issues with motion sickness and I can’t stand feeling nauseated so I feel your pain there. For my relief, I use something called “Quease Ease.” It is basically harmless aromatherapy tube (about the size of a tube of lipstick) with spearmint, peppermint, ginger, and lavender oils in it. It worked great for me for post-surgery nausea as well. I highly recommend it!