afraid she'll say no…

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m afraid FSIL will say no. A friend of 15-20 years should be thrilled though!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MsGinkgo:  It should be fine.  I was worried about one of my bridesmaids and she initially said “maybe not” but when I asked why she said it was because she was super busy with her two kids (under 5) and her husband taking classes nights and weekends plus she was afraid I would expect her to do a lot.  I told her all I needed her to do was stand up with me, take some pictures, and enjoy dinner.  I didn’t expect her to throw a shower (my FMIL is) or bachelorette (meh, not for me.)  Once I cut down on the expectations she was all in with being my bridesmaid.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sure she will be thrilled. I had a friend accept, and then recently tell me she didn’t think it was a good idea due to personal reasons.  I understood…but I was super bummed 🙁 Good Luck!

Post # 7
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Can someone not accept and the relationship still be ok? 

Post # 8
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@FoxyBride14:  I think so – it just totally depends on the reason. Financial reasons – sure, I’d absolutely understand. If she just didn’t want to – like just because- I’d be pretty bummed and a little hurt.

Post # 10
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1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FoxyBride14:  I would say so. I’ve only had people accept and then step down, but the relationship shouldn’t change based on her saying no.

@MsGinkgo:  I’m sure she’ll say yes! Stress less, and if she doesn’t say yes, that would be a shame. You’ve got nothing to worry about though, I would say! Best of luck to you, lovely 🙂

Post # 12
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@FoxyBride14:  I gave a very kind (and true) reason for a decline just recently…she shit all over me. Definitely not friends anymore. I figure I am better off and dodged a bullet on that one.

Post # 14
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsPanda99:  definitely. At least you know her true colors. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsGinkgo:  Never suggested you would. I was answering someone’s question.

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