Afraid to ask boss for more time off after the wedding

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee

what is the culture like at your office regarding vacation time? 4 weeks per year is VERY generous after just 2 years of working there. Are you allowed to carry time over from year to year? Do your co-workers all take the full 4 weeks each year?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@mimi123:  First of all, what is with your boss’ attitude? Those comments were uncalled for.

However, this is what I noticed about vacation time from working full-time at a myriad of companies. Companies want you to take it, but they are a little leery when it comes to taking more than 2 weeks off at once. At my place, if I want to take 3-4 days off, it gets approved no problem. If I want to take 7 or more business days, I get asked about it. I think your boss wasn’t expecting you to take 3 weeks off at once. Welcome to the corporate world, I guess.

As for August, is there a way that maybe you can take 2-3 days off instead of 5? I think that may be “better” received than asking for a full week off. You can then take the remaining days off around the holidays or something so that you won’t lose them (not sure when your fiscal year cut off is).

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You are entitled to your days. If your vacation is approved… take it!. Don’t feel guilty.

Post # 8
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Newbee

Don’t feel bad at all! It’s your time, you earned it. It’s been plenty of time since April and taking a week should be no problem. Don’t let your boss bully you into not taking your vacation time!

Post # 9
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Honey bee

@mimi123:  I think a week is fine, even two weeks could be ok. But 3 weeks off at once is a lot. That is 3 weeks that your co-workers have to cover for you and probably the reason your boss gave you a hard time about it.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mimi123:  Well, you can absolutely use it, it’s your right. But also it is pretty reasonable that the company would expect you to spread out somewhat – unless you’re in Europe. A 3 week long vacation is certainly long – it’s almost a month. I’d be careful about taking time off for a while. If I were you, I’d certainly ask, but won’t act strong. I’d explain the situation and if he thinks it’s fine, I’d love to take off but if it’s going to be difficult, I’d like to take a couple days of time off so that I can join at least some part of the vacation. – You can share the half of the vacation with 2-3 days off.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

While you’re entiteld to your days of…three weeks is a LOT of time to be gone for something that’s not an emergency. I know that a lot of companies have policies abut how much time you can take off at one time. My old job only allowed two weeks at a time, and you had to be back on the schedule (and work), otherwise you were terminated. But if he approved it…?

The other issue is who is doing your work when you’re gone especially for an extended period of time. This happens a lot where I work because our corporate office doesn’t give a shit. When someone is gone, someone else HAS to do their work, which means that someone is doing their own job and at least part of someone else’s job, too. When that happens for a long time, it really starts to grind you down. I only bring this up because this is rampant where I work and it really sucks for the rest of us.

What’s your SOP for requesting time off? Do you have to submit a formal request (in paper or online), or do you just ask?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Think about it this way…

The WORST that can happen is that he says ‘No’.  That’s it. 

Vacation time is your time.  If he had a problem with the 3 weeks the first time, he should have simply asked for you to take a shorter time.  That should be no reflection on you wanting to take a second go round as long as everything is covered in the office. However, I understand so here is what I recommend.

Send an Email. Yes, don’t ask him one on one. Send an email saying, ‘Hey, would really like to take this time. Everything is covered at the office and I will make sure and catch up on work blah blah blah… Was just hoping that it is okay since I have ____ amount of time left”.  Or something to that point.  So, you wont have to ‘face’ him initially, and it would cut down on the nervousness especially after you hit the send button.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I always feel guilty taking time off… DH took off 3.5 weeks for our wedding/honeymoon, and he works in insurance, in management! I would request it, but phrase it SERIOUSLY politely, like “I know I just got time in April, but I was wondering…”

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mimi123:  This is how we do it where I work, as well. Lame that he won’t approve it–I probably wouldn’t have the balls to approve my own, either lol. Unfortunately, here, the work of others gets dumped on people who are already overworked. (For instance, corporate took one of our sales guys and made him play manager at another location for three months with like two days’ warning and now we’re stuck picking up his work.) Obviously, where I work is a bit different because not everyone who works here can fill in for everyone else–like if I went on vacation, they’d be able to cover the phones and do the cash, but nothing else would get done and I’d come back to piles. :

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