African American women dating/marrying White men. Is it a trend?

posted 3 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t think love can ever be considered a “trend”.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hopefully the trend will be that ethnicity will not be a factor in who we love.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@julies1949:  Amen!  I think the “trend” is that we as society are opening our minds and hearts and reducing the amount of social constraints and artificial barriers to two human beings connecting, regardless of outside expectation.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

Love would be pretty shallow if it could be trendy. as we grow towards understanding our equality as human beings, we love without drawing antiquated racial distinctions because we see people for who, not what, they are.. 

 

I support a societal trend towards racial blindness.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is not a “trend.” I think people tend to notice things more once a situation may also apply to them. For example, my FI is a little younger than I am so I now notice how many women around me are with someone younger. Before I never paid it any attention.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@julies1949: and @mjoyelle: I completely agree with you both.

@gelaine22:  I also agree with your statement: I think people tend to notice things more once a situation may also apply to them.

You’re definitely more aware of the situations of others if you are also in that situation.  I mean, even something as simple as being engaged … I never paid much attention to engagement rings in real life until I got engaged.  Now I find myself automatically looking at a woman’s left ring finger to see if she’s engaged and, if so, what her ring looks like.  Not because I want to be judgmental, but because I now genuinely enjoy looking at rings (I blame WeddingBee for this as well!).

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think that its very strange to label any love as a ‘trend’ to be honest. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I love dating all colors. I do not think it is a trend I think that people feel more comfortable now to date outside of their race and eventually marry. I like that!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think its still more common to see a black man with a white woman. Whenever my boyfriend and I see a black woman with a white man we’ll point it out and say “there we are!” because its something you don’t see around here to often.

 

 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Since when is love a trend?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@Lauren8712:  I’m biracial and have always dated white men! I’m having a baby by one now 🙂

that said, I think it is more common these days as compared to even 5 or 10 years ago. Maybe trend is not the right word, but it is more prevalent. No need to beat up OP over word choice. 

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Come on people, 70 years ago mixed race couples were practically unheard of, and people weren’t allowed to marry outside their race in many states.  Clearly, there is a trend toward more mixed race couples, which is a great thing!  🙂  I think we can safely say that love IS vulnerable to trends.  

I haven’t noticed any particular combination, but I have noticed many more untraditional couples.  I’m a white female and two of my ex’s were Asian guys (which I think is a fairly unusual combination.).  We got a few strange looks when we were dating, and a lot of my non-asian girlfriends insisted they were not attracted to Asian guys at all.  I have a chinese friend who is married to an African American guy, and I have another friend who is mixed race (European and Chinese) who is dating to a Latino guy, aside from the more common combinations.

Honestly, I think its great given how many people are still really are weird about dating/marrying outside their own race.  I know several of my friends in mixed race relationships had serious trouble with their parents when their relatoinships got serious.  

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@julies1949:  +1!

To me this is veeery strange that it would be remarked on. I’m Canadian, and race never seemed to be a factor for anyone I know…

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