Post # 1
Recently I have noticed that many female friends I know who are African American are dating white men. I live in NJ and work in PA and I see it almost everywhere. Im 26 now, and in high school it was reversed, there were mostly black men dating white women. Has anyone else noticed the change? When my fiance and I put up our relationship status on facebook, there were many of my white male friends who messaged me saying weird things. Some comments were like “i never knew you dated outside your race, I always found you attractive.” “I wish I knew I would have asked you out” Has anyone other african american woman experienced this?
My fiance and I have been together for about a year and a half. Race has never played a role in our relationship. We just fit toghether. I admit when we first got together, I worried about what other people thought, now it doesn’t even phase me. He has dated other african american women before and previous to him, I have never dated outside of my race. If two people love each other race should not matter. I am 26 he is 31 and we plan on getting married Fall 2014! Can’t wait!
Post # 3
I don’t think love can ever be considered a “trend”.
Post # 4
Hopefully the trend will be that ethnicity will not be a factor in who we love.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Amen! I think the “trend” is that we as society are opening our minds and hearts and reducing the amount of social constraints and artificial barriers to two human beings connecting, regardless of outside expectation.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
Love would be pretty shallow if it could be trendy. as we grow towards understanding our equality as human beings, we love without drawing antiquated racial distinctions because we see people for who, not what, they are..
I support a societal trend towards racial blindness.
Post # 7
@Lauren8712: It’s definitely not a trend. The reason why other black/white interracial couples are allowed to get married is because of Loving v. Virginia.
Also, check this out 🙂
Post # 8
This is not a “trend.” I think people tend to notice things more once a situation may also apply to them. For example, my FI is a little younger than I am so I now notice how many women around me are with someone younger. Before I never paid it any attention.
Post # 9
@julies1949: and @mjoyelle: I completely agree with you both.
@gelaine22: I also agree with your statement: I think people tend to notice things more once a situation may also apply to them.
You’re definitely more aware of the situations of others if you are also in that situation. I mean, even something as simple as being engaged … I never paid much attention to engagement rings in real life until I got engaged. Now I find myself automatically looking at a woman’s left ring finger to see if she’s engaged and, if so, what her ring looks like. Not because I want to be judgmental, but because I now genuinely enjoy looking at rings (I blame WeddingBee for this as well!).
Post # 10
I think that its very strange to label any love as a ‘trend’ to be honest.
Post # 11
I love dating all colors. I do not think it is a trend I think that people feel more comfortable now to date outside of their race and eventually marry. I like that!
Post # 12
I think its still more common to see a black man with a white woman. Whenever my boyfriend and I see a black woman with a white man we’ll point it out and say “there we are!” because its something you don’t see around here to often.
Post # 13
Since when is love a trend?
Post # 14
@Lauren8712: I’m biracial and have always dated white men! I’m having a baby by one now 🙂
that said, I think it is more common these days as compared to even 5 or 10 years ago. Maybe trend is not the right word, but it is more prevalent. No need to beat up OP over word choice.
Post # 15
Come on people, 70 years ago mixed race couples were practically unheard of, and people weren’t allowed to marry outside their race in many states. Clearly, there is a trend toward more mixed race couples, which is a great thing! 🙂 I think we can safely say that love IS vulnerable to trends.
I haven’t noticed any particular combination, but I have noticed many more untraditional couples. I’m a white female and two of my ex’s were Asian guys (which I think is a fairly unusual combination.). We got a few strange looks when we were dating, and a lot of my non-asian girlfriends insisted they were not attracted to Asian guys at all. I have a chinese friend who is married to an African American guy, and I have another friend who is mixed race (European and Chinese) who is dating to a Latino guy, aside from the more common combinations.
Honestly, I think its great given how many people are still really are weird about dating/marrying outside their own race. I know several of my friends in mixed race relationships had serious trouble with their parents when their relatoinships got serious.
Post # 16
To me this is veeery strange that it would be remarked on. I’m Canadian, and race never seemed to be a factor for anyone I know…