After 4 1/2 years its over…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Dmv21:  

*hug* So sorry this happened to you. 

Do you feel ready to talk about the break up? Go ahead and share if need be.

Post # 4
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3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Dmv21:  

Any man who leaves you for standing up for yourself is not worth the trouble. After everything your ex put you through, he should have been more understanding of your feelings. He seems irresponsible, immature and selfish. You dodged a bullet here. I know it hurts like hell but you deserve better. 

Post # 5
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884 posts
Busy bee

I am sorry you are going threw this. I ended up breaking up with my high school sweet heart who I had been with for 6 years after he left for collegue (we were in our earlier/mid twenties and had been living together for several years already). In hind sight it was the BEST thing that EVER could have happened! <br /><br />My life 8 years later is amazing! I am successful with 2 kids and a great career and an AMAZING man who is soooo much more than I could have hoped for. <br /><br />The point is, it hurts a ton now but there is so much more to life than that one man, and so many amazing things still can happen! Greive this relationship but dont let it define you.

Post # 7
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3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you will look back on this as the best break up there ever was. This has left you free. Free to find the man who will treat you correctly, all the time. You now have possibility instead of stress and dissappointment. You have opportunity instead of mistrust. You have time. Soon you will begin to feel a little thing called liberation. You will find yourself revelling in it. Look after yourself. Eat your favourite food. Watch junk tv. Cuddle a hot water bottle or cuddle a friend or a mum. You will get through this. And you will be better for it mentally and physically because unhealthy relationships drain your body of energy. Freedom rejuvenates it. I promise there is so much joy ahead of you. Just be patient while the pain passes. Like a broken arm, a broken heart will heal. Sending love and hugs and prayers for you tonight.

Post # 8
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6591 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry for the sad time. If it wasn’t going to work out, it’s better to know now than to know after you’re already married. Embrace your new awesome singleness! It gets better.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

*hugs*. i’m so sorry you’re going through this. i think it really is for the better. lying is not okay. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think you dodged a bullet. Any kind of cheating is unacceptable and the kind of lifestyle that he seems to be living at the moment in really not conducive to a committed relationship. However, that’s easy for me to say from a distance. Being in the situation is awful so I’m sending you internet hugs! Time – and distance – and diving into other things in the meantime, be it work, hobbies, friends or whatever will help get you through it.

Post # 12
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3136 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Dmv21: 

Please, for your sake, set ground rules. Meet him in a public place. Do not allow him to get too physical with you. Hugging and hand holding can quickly lead to breaking other boundaries and these broken boundaries make the grieving process that much harder. You do not want it to be murky. You want it to be cut and dry. For you. Because you are your first priority. Look after yourself and do not let him wear you down. You will likely live to regret it at this early stage. Please, protect yourself and guard your heart. Remember why you broke up. Good luck, honey.   

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I went through almost everything like you’re explaining the cultural differences mine was more racial difference and emotional cheating I was with my boyfriend for four and a half years we were picking out engagement rings and one last lie about supposedly working late and found out he ended up going to see one of my cousins in another state and it was hard it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done never thought I would fall in love with anybody ever again but now about 4 years later I am engaged and going to be married next July and I honestly couldn’t be happier.what I felt before with my ex was nothing compared to the love I feel now for my current fiance and I’m sure you two will find that right guy for you.

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