Post # 1
I am just in the beginnig stages of planning and I’m trying to sort out what expenses can be avoided. I have a pretty restrained budget for a “full service” wedding, that is one with a ceremony and reception at a bought venue with dancing and food and all that.
Where I live, catering is going to be the most expensive part of the wedding – even counting the venue and considering that the wedding will definitely be under 100 people. Not enough of my relatives live nearby to provide a full pot luck dinner.
So…my dream is to have a bunch of different appetizers and desserts served at the wedding, with the ceremony starting at 7 pm, but no dinner. I want to let everyone know, via some slip in the invitations about how it’s a “post dinner” wedding, that they should eat dinner before they come. I want to go out to an relaxing, low key early dinner with close friends and family before the wedding but after the day’s preparations since we’ll have the venue all day. This way, in theory, everyone stays full on the small foods served throughout the ~four hour reception but I don’t have to pay the extra several thousand dollars for distant relatives that may or may not actually show up. Is this considered tacky or will it offend people? Should I care?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@ophelia-swims: My MOH’s wedding was held at 7pm, reception at 7:45ish and she only served a variety of desserts. I think people know if you don’t offer meal choices on the RSVP card and given the start time that they should eat before they come.
Post # 4
@ophelia-swims: Is your wedding on a weekday (your profile date is, but I wasn’t sure)? If it is, you might want to think about pushing your starting time back even just a bit more. In order to be somewhere for just before 7pm and to have time to eat beforehand and get ready, anyone who works typical work hours would probably need to leave work early.
If it’s a weekend, I think 7pm is fine. We often only eat dinner around that time, but if you indicate on a reception card that it’s hors d’oeuvres and dessert (I’m sure someone can chime in with the appropriate wording), I would know to eat a full meal in advance. I think the key is that as long as it’s been clear to your guests, it’s absolutely fine to do apps and desserts.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
I definitely don’t think it is a tacky idea at all. For the invitations, I would make sure to state “Cocktail Reception to follow” or something similar. That way people know food will be provided but it isn’t a full dinner.