Post # 1
We are in the very beginning stages of wedding planning and taking backwards steps everytime we talk with family. So…if we decide to plan a long weekend in Vegas with a few people and get married there, how should the “after wedding reception” look?
We still would have a reception, more laid back with family after Vegas. Do most people plan this right after they get back or wait awhile? Also, would you suggest including a small “ceremony” of some sort and how would this work if already married?I ask mostly because I don’t know if our parents would make it to Vegas (my mom has never flown and still refuses, we live in NY) and I guess I am thinking of the ceremony as more for our parents (which may be a mistake in itself, but who knows!)
Anyone get married in Vegas that knows of a good place to go? We do not want one of those expensive wedding packages I have seen, just a simple one with a bunch of pics, maybe a video to take back for family and a few people.
Post # 3
@jvangorden9: My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing ours the weekend after we get back. She’s planning everything so I have no idea what it’s going to look like. It’s just going to be a get together with family, I’m not expecting any decorations, just nice food (which they always have!). I feel like if you wait for months after you get married to throw the reception that the excitement of you two just getting married would be over IMO. We aren’t having a ceremony during the “welcome home celebration” (technically by definition it isn’t a reception) but that is because we are having two ceremonies. The first ceremony will be non-legal or spirtual or a commitment ceremony in Costa Rica, and then the second ceremony will be our legal ceremony with just our parents attending, so we don’t feel a need to have another ceremony.
Your options could be to
a) have a non-legal ceremony in Vegas and then a legal ceremony at your reception
b) get legally married in Vegas and then renew your vows at your reception
c) have a non-legal ceremony in Vegas and have a small, legal ceremony with just your parents when you get back
Or just have one ceremony if that’s what you want. If you want to have another ceremony at your reception then you should.
Sorry, I don’t have any suggestions for where to get married at in Vegas. I would probably look into getting a photographer and getting married in the Grand Canyon and then honeymooning in Vegas. I would just look up “elopement packages with video in Las Vegas” in Google.
Post # 4
Fiance and I dont have anything planned for when we return. We did however, consider having a 1 year anniversary party at our own house in August 2013 (we’re aiming for August 2012 for the wedding). My father is ill, my sisters each had a baby, my side of the family is not really conducive to travelling this year, so I hope that will a) give us time to pretty up our yard, b) get the to save money to fly out to our house so they can finally meet FI’s side of the family, c) life may be a little more normal for them next year. We’re talking just immediate family and friends, no extended relatives.
I personally think it’d be odd to have a vow renewal after getting married in Vegas. Vow renewals are typically 1, 5, 10+ years, not a few days/months after the wedding. What about doing a slide show of your wedding in Vegas, maybe have some people do a toast, maybe even get some champagne for a toast with all the guests. I’d maybe call it a celebration party, as a reception by definition means a way to receive your guests to thank them for coming to the wedding. But the party can be anything you like. Usually it’s been more casual since it’s not a wedding it takes the pressure off and just makes it more relaxed and fun. If we have a 1 year party, I’ll get it catered but something under $10 a head. I will want to make it as easy on myself as possible.
Post # 5
We didn’t elope, we planned a wedding though where no one was invited. It was super great. Now, we are planning a 1 year “Anniversary Party” to celebrate our marriage with family and friends. Basically, it is pretty laid back, but we are having it in a historic building, with a nice, catered buffet, beer, wine, etc.
I personally am not planning any sort of ceremony, but that’s because I don’t want it to be too wedding-y. I correct family members when they call it “the wedding” because I am already married. I’m really proud that we’ll be through our first year at that time. I thought I’d wear my wedding dress again, because I love it, but I’ve decided to opt for a really pretty party dress instead.
If you think that your parents will really care, and you want to do a ceremony, I say “go for it!” Just make sure that you feel comfortable with it, and it feels authentic to you. Otherwise it doesn’t matter what people think.
Post # 6
I guess mine is a wedding with no guests too, but I’ve been saying elopement just so I don’t have to define it everytime. But I guess we should because some people do technically elope.
Post # 7
@sienna76: lol, you can do whatever you want! I make a point to describe ours the way that I do because when we were planning it, we found that a lot of people (mostly our families – our friends “got it.”) didn’t really take it seriously. We got all sorts of questions like “are you still doing this next week” or “Oh.. you got a cake?” I guess I understood where they were coming from, but it was really frustrating. We planned it for months, we just didn’t want anyone else there! So, to me the word “elopement” became really annoying because it was used (around me – not saying it is) to signify something spur of the moment, unplanned, and not that serious. Hence my distaste.
Like I said, that’s just me and really circumstantial. You do whatever you’re most comfortable with! ; )
Post # 8
I don’t really like referring to it as an elopement either. It will be planned and we will have a few close friends with us. I had thought about doing a year later reception, but think I would rather do that soon after getting back, especially since I will be getting very involved with grad school after this year as I finish up the last few yrs of my Phd- there will be no time for extensive planning!!
I think we are in the same boat as you were, our family…well my family can only laugh when I say Vegas would be fun. Like a…haha wow really hope you are joking kind of laugh. Friends are extremely excited when we mention we have been exploring ideas for a Vegas Wedding weekend 🙂 even if they won’t be able to go with us!!
Post # 9
@jvangorden9: I just got back from a small Vegas wedding a week ago! One of my best friends married her longtime boyfriend (fiance) after a pretty short engagement. We all had a BLAST! I spent too much money shopping, but really it was a great time. Also, I live out of town, so it seems like I only get to see them when I visit my family so it was really nice for us all to have an “adult” vacation together.
I think total, there was about 40 there, but probably at least half were friends.
I did notice that when I told people I was going to Vegas for a wedding, they kept joking about Elvis and a wedding chapel. Vegas definitely has that reputation, but my friend got married at Mandalay Bay and it was quite pretty and the reception at a restaurant down the strip was a great time. Don’t let the jokes get you down.
We also got a lot of questions like “Why New York?” We picked New York because it was close to DC (where we were living at the time), really photogenic, meant we got to have a honeymoon, and it was just great fun. Plus now, throughout the years, whenever we’re in New York it will feel like that special place where we got married. ; )