After Months!! We Have Finalized Our Guest List! Gif time!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Great!

I tried to control my guestlist by keeping it family only as a compromise so no feelings would get hurt. Ha! My MIL pulled a fast one on me and invited all of her neighbors. I guess her friends were more important than mine…

(We were originally supposed to elope. I wish we would have.)

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I really don’t know how to express how jealous I am. Getting a finalized list from FI parents is actually going to make me certifiable. My parents have had their lists done for MONTHS, I have had my list done for MONTHS, FI has had his list done for MONTHS. They’ve had the same number of months and cannot manage to get it down to the right number. Like, how much more specific do I need to be that I want STDs sent out THIS MONTH? At the rate we are going, their list won’t get STDs at all.. it is seriously driving me insane. I have the bigger family, so why is it so damn hard for them to make the necessary cuts? They are so dang concerned with not pissing anybody off… they are pissing ME off! AHHHHHHHHH! *sorry, I’ve been very annoyed with this these past few days*

Want to come talk some guest list sense into my FILs? Seriously….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That gif is just so perfect, exactly how I felt when we finished out guest list haha. Congrats on finalising yours! 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SarahTee:  Right there with ya…. we tried getting all the addresses from them this weekend and while they were sitting on the couch watching tv/online shopping we kept hearing “I’m busy…. not right now…” YES RIGHT NOW! RIGHT NOOOOOOOOOW!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lina010:  That’s what we should have done. My parents are paying for 2/3rds of the wedding, with the other 1/3 coming from me, so obviously they get to make their own list. His parents decided they are now going to contribute but haven’t given me an amount. Even if they do contribute, they are getting 90 people, they have to make it work. Sorry FILs, but you can’t invite old neighbors if you’re inviting all of your cousins children! I honestly don’t give a flying fart who they invite, I just want the effing list already! 

@MrsConnolly2bee:  Story of my damn life. Every freaking time FI asks them for the list, they complain about how busy they have been and how its SoOoOoOoO difficult for them to get it down to the right number. I want to scream “HERE’S HOW YOU GET IT DOWN TO THAT NUMBER, IF YOU HAVEN’T SPOKEN TO THEM IN A YEAR, AND THEY AREN’T BLOOD, THEY’RE OFF THE LIST!” I’m sorry, but I just cannot understand what is so damn difficult about not inviting neighbors you moved away from 15 years ago and that FI hasn’t seen since he was 8.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@SarahTee:  There is one neighbor they are actually inviting and I asked what house number they were – she had no clue. She said “Well we are 21, but shes on the other side of the street, so that’s 20… 20… 40…. 60… Let’s just put 70!” No. Just no. This isn’t a guessing game. I have to drive by this weekend and take a note. Thanks for the reminder 😉 And GOOD LUCK!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsConnolly2bee:  Oh god that would probably kill me. I get not knowing the number off the top of your head, but just putting a random number on there, WAT?! Eloping sounds so good right now, if only I didn’t have so many deposits down. Thanks, for the luck, I’m gonna need it!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

YAY! That must be an amazing feeling!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SarahTee:  I had a similar problem with FI’s mom’s guest list, so what I did was completely skip them on the STD’s.
That way, when she decided she didn’t need to invite all 5 of her bosses, NONE of her bosses had received an STD so I didn’t have to worry about it.

STD’s are not a thing everyone understands (I’m still getting texts/emails/calls about how uninformative or confusing my “invitation” was… DUH it WASN’T an invitation!!!) so don’t fret too much if you skip over some people while you whittle down the guest list.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@lina010:  Lucky you I have a huge family my maternal grandmother has 9 kids and all are very close. My FI family is large because his parents each have a “good size” so yea totally get it. And so true about growing up calling family by nicknames there are many that have nicknames or first name without the last on our rough draft. Oh and lucky you again for keeping it at 100-150 that was the number we started off with and that pretty much doubled. FI parents said they will pay the difference of the extra 25 guests. Hopefully I can get my lazy butt going again to complete it lol.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@CakeyP:  That’s what I will probably end up doing. I’ll send them to all of the definites like family from their side, but I’m in no way going to commit to any of her random people. Theres enough time that I can send them out as she becomes sure she’s going to invite them. She’ll just have to understand that once she has me send a save the date to somebody, that person is invited and counts toward her total. And I am SOOOO looking forward to people being confused about the save the date *sarcasm*. I tried to make it as idiot proof as possible by having in BIG BOLD LETTERS “Formal Invitation to Follow.” Should be an interesting way of seeing who actually reads! Luckily, save the dates are pretty common in my area, so it shouldn’t be TOO confusing, but I’m sure I’ll get some questions from the old folks on the list.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MRSsrm85:  Wow. I’m mean. They would NOT be getting an invite.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@LuvMySailor:  Oh no. They showed up because they received a verbal invitation behind my back. I found out two weeks before and threatened to call the whole thing off.

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