Post # 1
Due to venue rules, our reception will be 4.5 hours long and will end at 10 pm. I feel like this is pretty early, and I am considering having an after-party — especially since a lot of our friends are coming in from out of town.
Trouble is, our venue is not exactly in the most densely populated, nightlife-rich area. It’s sort of on the edge of the suburbs of a city. There are a couple of bars in the same plaza as the hotels where we’ve booked room blocks, but they are very… meh.
So… should I have an after party? If so, should I have it at a lame bar that is convenient for out-of-town guests staying in our room blocks, or should I pick a more fun location that is a bit more of a drive for the out-of-towners?
Post # 3
I like the idea of having it at a bar in a hotel where everyone is staying. It’s about who you’re with. My cousins rarely come into town but we love hanging out. One time when they came for a funeral (yes, a funeral) we all partied in the motel room where they were staying.
Plus, as a guest, I’d rather not have to drive.
Post # 4
@brlabrat: The point of an after-party is to continue the partying, which to many means “continue the drinking.” Therefore, I’d definitely urge you to pick a place from which your out-of-town guests can walk rather than drive, and encourage your local guests to enjoy a night in the hotel too.
Post # 5
We had this exact problem, and ended up going with the kind of lame bar that is super convenient. There are other options, but it just seems like no one will come unless they can walk there, especially since they will already have been drinking all night.
Post # 6
Unfortunately neither of the hotels where we have room blocks have bars. (Can you tell this after-party idea is a recent development and not something we initially planned for? lol)
So anything within walking distance for guests would have to be at one of the “meh” bars in the same plaza as the hotels. They’re not necessarily awful, just sort of sports bar/chain places.
Edit: thanks for the super-fast responses! Yes, the “meh” bars are best in terms of safety because they’re walking distance, and I definitely want to prioritize everyone’s safety. I just hope the atmosphere of the bars won’t put a damper on the party!
Post # 7
I would much rather go to a “meh” bar and be able to walk than have to drive!
Post # 8
@MrsBeck: +1. If you have a lot of out of towners staying at a hotel nearby, have it at the nearby bar. It’s more about the company than the place!
Post # 9
@brlabrat: Take over the divey strip mall bar and ROCK it with your wedding after party! Those locals won’t know what hit them!
Post # 10
@LilRhodyGem: Haha I like the way you think!
Post # 11
@MrsBeck: @snd485: Thanks to you both, this is just a great way to put it. I was worried about the dive bar not being “cool” enough, and feeling self-conscious about not being able to afford to ferry folks on a party bus. I really should stop trying to make it “perfect” and just enjoy the company wherever it’s easiest for them to join me 🙂
Post # 12
@brlabrat: drinking and driving or having to worry about transportation, not a good idea.
the guests will make the lame bar fun. i say have the party walking distance to the hotel.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@brlabrat: Go to the meh bars and be the life of the party that night. It’s much better to go and take over a quieter bar than try to compete with the crush of drunks at the popular places.
Post # 14
@brlabrat: Don’t you have better things to do after the reception?
Post # 15
@brlabrat: If so, should I have it at a lame bar that is convenient for out-of-town guests staying in our room blocks
This is exactly what my BIL did in August and it was perfect. It was walking distance from the hotel and we all came and went as we pleased. We pretty much had the place to ourselves. Go for it!