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After party - yes or no?

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    LegallyBlondeBride    July 30, 2010   Chapel Hill, NC & Houston, TX

    Our reception will last until midnight, but I have a pretty strong feeling that I won't want it to be over.  Plus, I will probably want an excuse to change into a short white dress. :P  Who has had an after party and how did it go? Were you too tired?  We will probably be waking up relatively early to fly to Florida to catch our cruise.  The reception is only a block from the biggest party street in the town.  

     
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    hermitcrab    June 2010   NYC

    I would say go for it!  You are only marrying this man once so live it up!  You can always sleep on the plane or when you get back - make the most of your wedding day if you're up for it :)

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    We were SO sure that we were going to party all night long with our friends and family. We rarely get to see a lot of the people that came to our wedding, and since our reception ended at 10:30, we figured a party at the hotel bar until midnight would be perfect. Especially since a lot of our family members are partiers, and most everyone was staying at the hotel.

    Well, we got up at 7 a.m. that morning aftere not sleeping well, and by the time our reception came to an end, we were still high on adrenaline, but 15 mins into our after party, we both wanted to go. While we were exhausted, we still wanted to hang out with everyone, but we just needed to get away from people. We needed quiet time. We had about 8-ish family members stay at the bar until midnight, but everyone else went back to their rooms (gotta remember, it's a long day for guests, too).

    So, I say play it by ear. Scout out a location and make it really informal. You may want to cut out early so don't many any promises :)

     

     
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    Miss Meepsie    01/15/10   NYC

    I agree - keep it informal/casual & don't make promises. (And definitely don't make any sort of financial commitment to an after party venue). 

    Our reception ended @ 12:30 and we ended up going to a nearby pub for a few drinks with some of our good friends & out of town guests.  We left before everyone else did (maybe around 2:30am).  The adrenaline definitely was kicked in for us, but we did eventually want to get back to our suite..... ;) 

    A few days prior to the wedding, I sent an email out to our guests with directions.  At the end of the email I noted: "For anyone wishing to continue the festivities past 12:30am, we reccommend XYZ Pub at ### Street.  (Directions to pub)."  We didn't commit to going until that night. 

    ETA - it was very cute too, when we left the afterparty (in a yellowcab), our guests saw us off waving & cheering and such. 

     
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    grace8367    September 6, 2009   Chicago

    Hmm, we extended our reception until 1am and honestly, I can't imagine having gone any longer- we were beat!

     
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    aloweha      

    I organized an after party because my reception ended at 10pm so I was positive the party should keep going and, like you, I had an adorable after-party outfit to out on.

    We all, guests included, lasted about 30 minutes and then we all crashed and had to go to bed. I was too tired to even put on my cute outfit and just rolled up in this little dress I wore all day getting ready because it was slip on and the other dress had a zipper and I couldn't handle it!

    I guess what I am saying is after-parties are a great idea but don't worry about putting too much effort into it!

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    OUr after party started right after our reception (around Midnight) but I held it at the Hotel where everyone was staying.  It was in the bar in the hotel and it was a blast!!!  We got to extend our wedding a little longer and talk/socialize with a smaller group of friends and family.  We didn't change our clothes - the only thing I did was put on some flats.  I like the idea of getting a short dress though...honestly, I just didn't want to miss anything so we went straight there!

     
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    SoonToBeMrsV    July 3, 2010  

    We're planning on having an informal after party at the hotel bar too. My FI and I went to a wedding a few months ago where we did this and it was fun.  The bride and groom only hung out for 30 min or so but it was great to visit with them one last time and for them to relax and unwind with a smaller group!

     
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    We're having an after party for sure. Our reception ends at 9pm and we'll definitely want to keep on havin' fun! Plus, I have an awesome dress for it!

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    I've never been to an after party at a separate location. Typically, if the couple wants to party all night, they reserve the reception venue as late as possible. Honestly, that makes the most sense to us since if you're having a great time, the last thing you want to do is pack up and go to a different venue. The couple also stays to the end regardless of how long the reception lasts.

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    We are having an after party, but ours is really different than the typical "go to a bar at 1am" kind of thing. We are having a brunch reception that will be very family oriented, and we want to give our younger friends / more lively family members an opportunity to actually party. It won't be a continuation of the partying at the reception, but more like the first and only opportunity to really party! It is adding on to our budget but we are saving money on our brunch reception by not serving a full course dinner, having a bar or a DJ, so those typical expenses are being shifted to the after party (which we are calling an "Evening Celebration" on our invitations). It will start at 7:30pm and we'll have snacky foods (chicken fingers, mini quesadillas, veggies and dip) and alcohol on us for the first few hours. We're having our friend be the "iPod DJ" and having fun "bar" music for people to dance if they want. 

    So yeah, our "after party" is more like a mini reception. Just thought I'd offer a different version!

     
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    Tonya2010    September 11, 2010  

    I agree with some of the others. Keep it informal and play it by ear. For example, a friend of mine who got married did not plan an after party, although when her reception ended at midnight she was still ready to party. We had the DJ announce before leaving that bride, groom and friends were all headed to this little tavern in our hometown. It was so much fun!! =) That being said I have seen some brides who where beat and SO ready to go home. Congrats and good luck! =)

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    The latest our venue will allow us to stay is 11 pm.  Plus we can't afford the DJ and alcohol for guests all night long!  We will tell guests of a good bar to go to afterwards.

     
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    Puggy    November 27, 2010   Southern Indiana/Northwest Florida

    We are doing an after party. Mostly because our reception will end around 4:30 in the afternoon. We are going to give guests the opportunity to get changed, take a nap, eat some dinner, or whatever else they want to do until later. We are going to have a bus or trolley pick up at the hotel and go bar hopping. We will take care of the transporation and everyone can enjoy the evening.

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    I'm hoping to have an after-party! We both really want one, we just don't know if we'll be able to find a place to have it!

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    we both want to do an after party too, but we are trying to figure out where to have it, and guest transportation to it. hmmmm, we'll see!!

     
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    Tootsietails    August 10, 2013  

    @daniellemybelle:  When is your wedding? Please let me know how it turns out! I am thinking of having something similar. Not to save on cost, but because I have to. (See this thread for more of the "Why": http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/reception-very-awkward-german-baptist-family-situation-what-would-you-do )

     

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