(Closed) After party – yes or no?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I would say go for it!  You are only marrying this man once so live it up!  You can always sleep on the plane or when you get back – make the most of your wedding day if you’re up for it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We were SO sure that we were going to party all night long with our friends and family. We rarely get to see a lot of the people that came to our wedding, and since our reception ended at 10:30, we figured a party at the hotel bar until midnight would be perfect. Especially since a lot of our family members are partiers, and most everyone was staying at the hotel.

Well, we got up at 7 a.m. that morning aftere not sleeping well, and by the time our reception came to an end, we were still high on adrenaline, but 15 mins into our after party, we both wanted to go. While we were exhausted, we still wanted to hang out with everyone, but we just needed to get away from people. We needed quiet time. We had about 8-ish family members stay at the bar until midnight, but everyone else went back to their rooms (gotta remember, it’s a long day for guests, too).

So, I say play it by ear. Scout out a location and make it really informal. You may want to cut out early so don’t many any promises ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 5
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I agree – keep it informal/casual & don’t make promises. (And definitely don’t make any sort of financial commitment to an after party venue). 

Our reception ended @ 12:30 and we ended up going to a nearby pub for a few drinks with some of our good friends & out of town guests.  We left before everyone else did (maybe around 2:30am).  The adrenaline definitely was kicked in for us, but we did eventually want to get back to our suite….. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

A few days prior to the wedding, I sent an email out to our guests with directions.  At the end of the email I noted: “For anyone wishing to continue the festivities past 12:30am, we reccommend XYZ Pub at ### Street.  (Directions to pub).”  We didn’t commit to going until that night. 

ETA – it was very cute too, when we left the afterparty (in a yellowcab), our guests saw us off waving & cheering and such. 

Post # 6
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Hmm, we extended our reception until 1am and honestly, I can’t imagine having gone any longer- we were beat!

Post # 7
484 posts
Helper bee

I organized an after party because my reception ended at 10pm so I was positive the party should keep going and, like you, I had an adorable after-party outfit to out on.

We all, guests included, lasted about 30 minutes and then we all crashed and had to go to bed. I was too tired to even put on my cute outfit and just rolled up in this little dress I wore all day getting ready because it was slip on and the other dress had a zipper and I couldn’t handle it!

I guess what I am saying is after-parties are a great idea but don’t worry about putting too much effort into it!

Post # 8
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

OUr after party started right after our reception (around Midnight) but I held it at the Hotel where everyone was staying.  It was in the bar in the hotel and it was a blast!!!  We got to extend our wedding a little longer and talk/socialize with a smaller group of friends and family.  We didn’t change our clothes – the only thing I did was put on some flats.  I like the idea of getting a short dress though…honestly, I just didn’t want to miss anything so we went straight there!

Post # 9
372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re planning on having an informal after party at the hotel bar too. My Fiance and I went to a wedding a few months ago where we did this and it was fun.  The bride and groom only hung out for 30 min or so but it was great to visit with them one last time and for them to relax and unwind with a smaller group!

Post # 10
336 posts
Helper bee

We’re having an after party for sure. Our reception ends at 9pm and we’ll definitely want to keep on havin’ fun! Plus, I have an awesome dress for it!

Post # 11
4485 posts
Honey bee

I’ve never been to an after party at a separate location. Typically, if the couple wants to party all night, they reserve the reception venue as late as possible. Honestly, that makes the most sense to us since if you’re having a great time, the last thing you want to do is pack up and go to a different venue. The couple also stays to the end regardless of how long the reception lasts.

Post # 12
2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are having an after party, but ours is really different than the typical “go to a bar at 1am” kind of thing. We are having a brunch reception that will be very family oriented, and we want to give our younger friends / more lively family members an opportunity to actually party. It won’t be a continuation of the partying at the reception, but more like the first and only opportunity to really party! It is adding on to our budget but we are saving money on our brunch reception by not serving a full course dinner, having a bar or a DJ, so those typical expenses are being shifted to the after party (which we are calling an “Evening Celebration” on our invitations). It will start at 7:30pm and we’ll have snacky foods (chicken fingers, mini quesadillas, veggies and dip) and alcohol on us for the first few hours. We’re having our friend be the “iPod DJ” and having fun “bar” music for people to dance if they want. 

So yeah, our “after party” is more like a mini reception. Just thought I’d offer a different version!

Post # 13
1209 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with some of the others. Keep it informal and play it by ear. For example, a friend of mine who got married did not plan an after party, although when her reception ended at midnight she was still ready to party. We had the DJ announce before leaving that bride, groom and friends were all headed to this little tavern in our hometown. It was so much fun!! =) That being said I have seen some brides who where beat and SO ready to go home. Congrats and good luck! =)

Post # 14
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The latest our venue will allow us to stay is 11 pm.  Plus we can’t afford the DJ and alcohol for guests all night long!  We will tell guests of a good bar to go to afterwards.

Post # 15
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are doing an after party. Mostly because our reception will end around 4:30 in the afternoon. We are going to give guests the opportunity to get changed, take a nap, eat some dinner, or whatever else they want to do until later. We are going to have a bus or trolley pick up at the hotel and go bar hopping. We will take care of the transporation and everyone can enjoy the evening.

Post # 16
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m hoping to have an after-party! We both really want one, we just don’t know if we’ll be able to find a place to have it!

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