(Closed) after the big day… a summary, some advice on what's important to me

posted 5 years ago in Recaps
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thanks, I will keep all that you said it mind when my time comes next month.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

You’re a wise bride.  I like that you took the time to give back this advice!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Funny I posted just now asking married bees what ended up being important/not important on the big day and you pretty much spelt it out for me!

So thanks for this, great post.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I concur! I regret spending so much time worrying about decorations, centrepieces and favours. I spent a lot of my budget on crap no one noticed. I am so happy I hired a world class DJ and had amazing food and photography, but I wish I had hired a videographer and skipped out on other things.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That is so sensible! I wish I was as grounded as you after my wedding! I spent a few emotional weeks running over the small mishaps in my mind before I was able to put them to rest. So true about the photographer being important, and the food and music. And the beautician.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I 100% agree. Photographer very important. I said to my husband the day after we got married that I wish we had the ceremony on video. That was one thing I was bummed we didn’t do. Luckily I found out a few days later that my uncle Had recorded most of theceremony. I’ve seen some guest pics of things I didn’t even notice at the ceremony and reception. I focused sO much on decorations before the wedding and hind sight that should have been one of the last things I payed any attention to. Our band was amazing and that was a big highlight for our guests. It really is amazing how fast the day goes by. My wedding was two weeks ago tomorrow  and of course I can’t help but think of all the things that go quite as planned, but at the end of the day I’m married to the most amazing guy and no one will ever remember all those decorating mishaps, etc. So don’t sweat the small stuff or the darn decorations!!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thank God i can’t agree with you..i had a wonderful wedding and i cherish every memory, every moment, hug, tear and laughter! The ceremony was absolutely perfect and even the photos were fun!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is fantastic advice for future brides! Thanks for taking the time to share your insight Smile

My husband and I were together for 8 years before we got married last month and honestly, I wasn’t really into all the planning. It felt like a chore like you mentioned. All I wanted was to finally get married to the man I’ve loved and shared my life with for the past decade.

Things important to me were 1/ photography, 2/ good food and 3/that someone recorded the ceremony.

We had a super small ceremony (12 people including us) and a small reception at an Inn (35 guests). It wasn’t about everyone else, although everyone loved and commented how lovely, romantic and intimate it was, it was for US! 

I refused to go into debt for the day so we did what we could afford and it turned out better than we imagined. 

Like you said, guests don’t tend to notice the little details we as brides tend to get caught up in. Provide good food and some music and everyone will have a great time.

Also, we just had a guest record our ceremony on our hand held video recorder. My husband edited it and it is an amazing memory we will cherish forever. I highly recommend having someone record your vows, you will love to have that memory in the years to come.

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