- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
So, my day have came and finished and here is what I have to say:
I am so happy that I have no more planning to do. In fact, I hated the planning so much towards the last few months that it became like a chore. I couldn’t wait to throw away all the magazines, delete my wedding website, etc. I don’t even feel like writing thank you notes anymore. No more wedding stuff please. In fact, I have a friend who is a bridesmaid for another girl I know, and I don’t even want to hear her talk about that girl’s showers, wedding plans, etc. I am totally over wedding planning, mine or otherwise. I love my husband and I very much want to be married to him. But wedding planning sucked.
So, what did I love about my wedding? I really love everything prior to the ceremony. I would do that again and again, every day if I could. I woke up, got pretty, put on my beautiful, big white dress, my husband put on his smart-looking tux, and we went off and took our pre-wedding pictures. It was the best time out of the entire wedding day. It was so much fun, just us, being in love.
Then the ceremony started and it was no longer just the two of us. It was us and 150 other people and soon it became like a show, us putting on a performance. Although, I really did have fun at my wedding, I would have liked a smaller affair. Maybe even just me and my husband, something really intimate.
Once the ceremony started, it was crazy, things happened so quickly, everyone wanted a piece of us. Although, we were lucky, our wedding didn’t really have any hiccups (that we know of), it was still really fast and crazy… a million things and people.
So, here’s what I have to say about the wedding:
After the wedding, I really don”t give a crap about what really happened or didn’t happen, went great or went wrong, I really only care that my husband and I are married. i really didn’t care that my bouquet was wilting a bit or that my dress was getting dirty or that we forgot to take some pictures with some important guests or say hi to some people, because honestly, i didn’t care about any of that afterwards. I am married to my husband and that was good enough for me. I have no regrets about the day.
Also, get a good photographer and videographer – like I said previously, things happen so quickly, things happened and you didn’t know, important parts of the ceremony like the processional that you couldn’t see. When the day is over, you have nothing but the photos and videos to commemorate it. So, get a really good photographer and videographer. Cut out centerpieces if you have to.
90%, okay maybe I am exaggerating, but you get the idea…. a lot of your wedding is for other people, you might not even get to enjoy most of the stuff that you obsessed about during wedding planning. Like the food, my husband and I didn’t get to eat, or the centerpieces – we had a sweetheart table, we didn’t get to enjoy any of the centerpieces and we went to honeymoon immediately, so it wasn’t like we could have brought a centerpiece home and enjoy it until it died. Things like favors are useless, people won’t even notice that they are missing. Ditto with guestbook. Also, no one cares or notices your bridesmaids bouquets, so you could save on that. I didn’t save because i wanted my bridesmaids to feel important, but really they can just hold anything, because no one cares about their bouquets.
What’s important for your guests? Good music and good food. Hire a good officiant, too. Because these things affect how much your guests will actually enjoy your wedding, but they are less important than your photographer and videographer. The photographer and videographer are there for you. The DJ, musicians, food, flowers, and pretty much everything else are for your guests. So, do yourself a favor and hire a good photographer and videographer (did I say that enough times already?) Oh wait, one more important vendor – your make up artist – get a good one, because you want to look great in your photos and videos, right?
Also, unless you are going to spend a ton decorating your ceremony, don’t worry about decorating the ceremony “minimally”, no one notices. People will only look at the two of you the entire time.
If your maid of honor or best man is going to do a speech, please ask them to prepare it ahead of time. My maid of honor prepared and was awesome. Stupid best man didn’t and sounded like a fool.
A last note on video: I know that a lot of you will think that you can cut out the video since you don’t want to watch yourself on video anyway. Trust me, I am one of those people, but I am so glad I hired a videographer. A videographer can capture the mood and emotions of a wedding that photography can’t. Also, your wedding only happens once (I hope), at least allow yourself the option to relive it. Even if you watch it just once, I think it is worthed it, because your wedding is the only wedding that you will be at that you will not get to fully enjoy or appreciate even though you are the guest of honor. So, at least give yourself the option to relive some of the moments. Also, even though, I don’t like watching myself on video, my videographer did a pretty good job and I have already watched my highlight video like 10 times!
So to summarize:
Really important, get the best that you can: Photographer, videographer, make up artist
Somewhat important: Food, music, officiant
Not so important: everything else.
I think that’s all for now. I will add if I can think of anything else.
Good luck, future brides.