Post # 1
thanks for having been so helpful thus far. I need some advice about after party idea on a tight budget.
My wedding reception is pretty early, from 2-5:30, because a hall was just too expensive and restaurants were only willing to give us the whole place if we can clear out before their dinner rush. We’re also not really having dancing at the reception because DJs are expensive in NY, restaurant is smaller, and my fiance and I really aren’t dancing ppl. But that being sad I want to have FUN at my wedding and I’m afraid it won’t be =/
So to combat that I really want to do something super fun after the reception but we’re super strapped for cash. I need your advice on
a) can it just be my bridal party and close friends… or do I have to invite all of my wedding guests incld my family, cousins etc (I really would like not to… b/c they are dancing, drinking, partying kind of ppl and well…. i’m not)
b)I thought about going bowling b.c i thought i thought the pics of me bowling in my dress would be hysterical… but is that lame? any other fun non-dancing/bar-ish kind of activities you can think of?
C) How much of the bill should I foot. Because of the time i feel like after the after party activity my friends may get hungry again for like diner. If we go bowling or maybe like dave and buster ( i actually don’t know how i feel about the dave and buster idea) should we pay for all of the games, food etc?
pretty please with sugar and cupcakes and all that good stuff if you can offer any and all suggestions and advice and i’ll love ya to death =)
Post # 3
OMG I think bowling afterwards sounds like a hell of a lot of fun. And you’re right…that would make for some great pictures!!
And I think it would be fine if everyone footed their own bill after your wedding was over. I think in fact, everyone will probably want to treat you guys.
Maybe you can plan to pay for a couple of games but that would be sufficient enough, IMO.
Post # 4
@Theresa90405: great! i’m soooooo glad you don’t think it’s dumb. =D Yeah i think we can swing paying for like shoes and the first game but only if it’s like our wedding party and friends. if family, cousins, out of towners that I don’t really know but had to invite (yes there was a lot of that…. i actually was only able to invite like 15 friends the rest if fam -__- but let me not go there)
How can i got about just asking them and not inviting like everyone?
Post # 5
@ilovemyhotdogdog: a) i think you can invite whoever you want! i’d maybe tell people to not talk too much about it… but there is often an after-party of sorts for a small group so i don’t think that is odd at all
b) do whatever YOU think is fun. whose opinion are you concerned about really? bowling sounds like a blast to me! the only other activity i can think of (because it is so close to halloween) is if you did like a hayride or haunted forest or halloween type event (our zoos here have “boo at the zoo” where the zoo is decorated for halloween and open until like 10pm… something like that). but honestly bowling sounds like fun!
c) i don’t think you have to pay anything. if you were doing something like bowling and there was only 20 people, it might be nice to buy a couple pizzas and pitchers of beer… but thats about as far as i’d go. and even that i dont think is necessary.
Post # 6
i love the idea of after parties! unfortunately my wedding was on a sunday so we couldn’t do that, besides, DH and I were both too exhausted after our reception to do anything else. but i have friends who went to karaoke after reception and had tons of fun!
bowling is a great idea! i think people would enjoy it and photos will look super cute!
are you going to wear a different dress for bowling? i have this image in my mind of you wearing a short white dress, with white garter on one of your thighs, and a pair of bowling shoes! that would be super cute!
Post # 7
You could buy a few appetizers while bowling or dave and busters and if theywant something else they can buy it themselves. I would also pay for bowling but at Dave and busters i dont think you need to pay bc you will be playing games individually.
Post # 8
I think that is an awsome idea! People will definitely remember your wedding because it would be cool and different. I say go for it! BTW the pictures would be so cute!
Post # 9
We did an after party, which really just ended up in a bunch of us closing down the bar in front of the hotel! I love love LOVE the idea of bowling (especially since in MI there is a smoking ban, so here you wouldn’t have to worry about your dress reeking later).
Do what’s fun to you, be spontaneous or tell just a few people, and the people who will want to party will come, treat you and the others can go home if they want. I would only worry about having fun with your close friends/family members and your wedding party and don’t worry if the rest do or don’t show up.
Plus, bowling is fun for everyone, even grandma!
Post # 10
We are doing this because our venue requires us to have everything over by 6 and cleared out by 7. So we are going to have the reception end at 5 and then the bridal party will go back to the hotel and change. We will then go out after that.
Post # 11
That’s what we’re doing! 🙂 I think it’s a fun idea and it’s totally okay to have people pay their own way if you can’t foot the bill, since you’ve already fed them and bowling is optional.
Post # 12
Bowling sounds like a ton of fun. And a great photo op too. My finance’s friends did a bowling after party and we all paid for ourselves and bought our own food. I think if you feel like you need to pitch in then like Corgitales said, a couple of pizzas and pitchers of beer would be fine. Maybe you can call the bowling alley and see if they can give you some kind of special since it is your wedding day. You never know, they might hook you up!
Post # 13
I agree with others, etiquette doesn’t hold so much in regard to afterparties, because you aren’t hosting that event (well, unless you are). Do whatever you think is fun, and if it’s an informal thing then I think everyone would expect to pay their own way.
Post # 14
Cosmic bowling in a white wedding dress would be so much fun!
Also, I think for the after party, people will expect to pay for themselves. My reception will be open bar, but we plan on going to a pub for the after party where people would have to buy their drinks etc.
Post # 15
Nonchalant post-wedding bowling? <
I’m a fan. 🙂
Post # 16
You have to remember this is YOUR wedding. Don’t wonder about who you “should” invite. You’re strapped for cash. Invite only those who mean the most to you and your new hubby. This could be just family, or the whole wedding party + family. Just do what feels right! There doesn’t have to be any money involved. A quaint after-party at your parents house is perfect!