AFTER the wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
Member
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

This is actually really hard for me to answer. Do I feel “different”? No, I don’t think so. I do love my new last name though! However, I don’t quite feel the same. I feel an even deeper connection with Mr. KatiePi. We were completely committed to one another before marriage, but getting married-which was really important to both of us-just added to our love. The day after, I did have this little personal freakout because it all felt so adult lol. It’s an amazing time. Not different, but not quite the same either (for the better). I’m sorry…this is really hard to explain.

Post # 5
Member
1433 posts
Bumble bee

@Merinda1994:  Hmmm, I totally get your analogy but I am still one of those people who get giddy excited at Christmas time, but super bummed after Christmas is over.  I have read of a lot of posts about girls feeling dissapointed once the wedding is over because it feels the same. For me, we didn’t live together before we were married so getting married was a HUGE change for the better for us. I think people who have lived together though seems to feel the same after the wedding. But something that really made me feel “married” also was the name change. I didn’t get mine changed for maybe 8 months after the wedding but I remember it being a really cool feeling being able to say his last name and write his last name. It felt more like being husband and wife to me. I know this isn’t the case for everyone because a lot of girls choose not to do the name change but I really liked that moment. 

   I think what your feeling is normal. We have ways of picturing something in our minds and building things up to feel different then they do in reality but the important thing is your are happy and have a great relationship and you are marrying what sounds like a great guy!

Post # 7
Member
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Merinda1994:  I think I will feel a lot different, because I have never slept with, spent a night with, lived with FI, so it will be TONS of changes hehe.

Post # 8
Member
811 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

For us “getting engaged” was something that emotionally just happened seamlessly over time.

By the time I had a ring on my ring we knew we were eachother’s forever love for almost a year.

I don’t know what I really expected to feel after getting the ring, honestly. (I didn’t realize “proposal stories” were such a big deal until reading things on weddingbee haha)

But it definitely didn’t feel any different. But I was QUITE excited about my awesoem new piece of jewelry!

Post # 9
Member
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Merinda1994: I don’t know that I felt different when we were engaged. It was an amazing time and so exciting. We’ve been together for almost 5 years and have lived together for over 3 1/2. It was a step to marriage. I agree with another poster. Having a new last name definitely helps with “feeling” married now.  

Post # 10
Member
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think that maybe you’ve built it up so much in your head that you expected it to be different that what it is. 

I don’t feel any different being engaged. I do sometimes look down at my ring and smile thinking about the love I have in my life. But it sort of just turns into your life and stop being so “christmas like” after a while. 

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