Post # 1
After the wedding, my FI is moving into the home that I currently own. He will be placed on all of the official paperwork so that we can be listed as a co-owner and all that fun stuff. Then we will save for a larger home.
That’s not the point of this thread. Ok, so I decided that we should change the colors (every room in the house has color on the walls) of the walls, buy new furniture, and basically refresh the space and turn it into OURS.
Any suggestions of when we should start? Do you think we should start before the wedding so that we have something “new” to come home to when the wedding is over or should we just wait and do it together while living under one roof?
What worked for you?
Post # 3
We already had a place together, so that wasn’t really a concern.
How stressed out are you about the wedding planning? Have you registered already? If not, you should probably have some decor discussions first, before picking towel/bedding/kitchen gadget colours.
I would discuss it, but leave it to be something fun to do together after the wedding. I wouldn’t want to be coordinating the wedding and the redecorating at the same time, but that might just be me 🙂
Post # 4
I’d save it for after the wedding. A lot of women end up with post-wedding blues and this will give you something to look forward to and occupy your time.
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@TaurianDoll: I woudn’t undertake any major projects right before the wedding, I bought a few pieces of furniture before the wedding to spruce it up because i knew a lot of people would be in and out of our home that weekend but anything else I think would be too overwhelming.
Post # 6
My DH and I lived together before we got married but we completely redecorated our entire home after the wedding. It was a wonderful experience together and it kept me busy during the post-wedding blues.
I would suggest waiting until after you are home from your honeymoon for a few reasons. For starters you don’t know what kinds of things you might get from your registry and you may even change your mind about everything once you get started (this is what we did…we returned practially everything). Also, after the wedding and honeymoon a lot of brides find themselves a little blue. Remodeled your new space is a great together activity that will give you something else to focus on during this transition period.
Post # 7
Some of the BIGGEST, knock down, drag out fights I ever had with Mr. 99 were over our house.
I had purchased and renovated the place to fit my taste, it was a very modern, scandanavian theme, with clean lines, minimalist decor and a very bright palette…had I known that very summer I would meet and fall in love with the man of my dreams who also happened to be a died in the wool, honest to god, aw shucks country boy…well, I might have chosen something different.
But, five years later…the house is what we like to call, Country Fried Modern, and in spite of how awkward it sounds, it actually holds a lot of appeal….we’re putting in a traditional Japanese Ofuro in the basement…so I guess the house reflects us in our essence, which is, all over the place.
Anyway, it’s a fun, for most people, experience to put things in your home that reflect and mirror your journies together, plus, a lot of people really like having a new project to come together on after the wedding.
Post # 8
@mchitt329: thanks! i think all of this advice is good.
@iheartnerds: this is what i needed to hear. the thought of planning both makes me feel so overwhelmed.
Post # 9
I’d say that’ a big endeavor all at once! Can’t you start with one place, like your bedroom? We still have a room that is all taped and not painted – it’s been 2 years.