(Closed) After-the-wedding blues

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I haven’t had the wedding yet, but I think this makes a lot of sense! So much time is spent planning and orchestrating, building up to this event, and then it’s gone in such a flash! I would just try to focus on how wonderful it is that you get to be married to the man you love (and maybe occasionally look at an album or two and let yourself lament).

Post # 4
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I got married a month a go, and I have the blues, but mostly cause I’m having trouble adjusting to married life.

 We weren’t living together so I have moved in with him.  I grew up in the suburbs and work near my old home.  I know live in the city and my commuting time has tripled.  We are planning on buying a home near the suburbs so I haven’t moved in cause we may be moving out in the next month so I can’t settle in.  I miss my friends and family and it’s been wearing me out.  I love my husband and love that I see him every day but I’m having growing pains and just need to get used to it.

Post # 5
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’m not married yet, but I think I know where you’re coming from.

There will be plenty more times in your life with days filled with love! How about children? Do you guys plan on having any? That will be HUGE! Or a job promotion or a big move or moving into a big house? You have lots to look forward to. 

Post # 6
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i’m not married yet, but i think about this a lot.

what is about your wedding that you loved so much? was it the planning? having lots of people celebrating you? the photos? the flowers?…

 i think that whatever you liked most about the wedding, you should make that thing more common in your life. why cant you have a nice anniversary bash? if money is an issue (i know it will be for us as we overspent juuust a little…) you can have a big bbq potluck in a local park with lots of friends and family in a few months, or something along those lines. if it was the planning, maybe you can start planning more celebrations in your personal life – dinner parties, birthdays. so what if your guests dont NEED hand crafted invites to your 4th of july cookout, they’re gonna get them and love them! lol

 i hope you feel better~

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Yup, I felt that way.  It’s common.  I think it helps to find something else to occupy your time.  Do you like to cook?  Could you plan a dinner party for a small group?  Do you have a new place?  Could you ahve a house warming?  And if you do have a new place or recently moved into his place etc.  you could get busy on gardening, painting, buying furniture.

And if all else fails, try to take this time to enjoy date nights and weekend getaways.  And just going out and doing stuff together without the chaos of wedding planning.  Before you know it you’ll be having kids.  That is new and exciting too.  And you’ll be able to look back on these date nights and down time, and be happy you took advantage of it.

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