Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club
Hey Bees, my DH and I haven’t been married very long at all, and we’re not even thinking about TTC right now, but we were talking about when we would like to. I’m 24 and he’s 27, so I said I would like to start TTC in 3 years. He said that’s way too soon, that he wants to be older, like 32 or 33. I, however, don’t want to have our first kid when I am 30, I want to be younger. So, I’m just curious, when did you start TTC?
This topic was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by TiaMP.
Post # 2
Me 30, him 34. Married 2 years.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We will TTC in November, so a bit more that 3 years after our wedding. Oh, and we’re both 34. Having done parenting as a young parent (DS is 16) and preparing to do it all over again as a more life-experienced parent, I am going to be a much better parent now than I was then. Having more years of life under your belt gives you a better perspective on what is worth worrying about and focusing on, and what just isn’t. Things I would have gotten bent out of shape over in my 20s don’t phase me in my 30s. I’m sure plenty of 20 somethings are npt as Type A as I was, so this won’t apply to them. But for those overachiever, out to prove something to the world (and themselves), analytical 20 somethings out there… wait until your 30s to have kids. It will save you a lot of unnecessary headaches over meaningless stuff. 😉
Post # 4
You’re gonna get answers across the board so there’s no comparision to what is “normal” or average. Only thing that matters is when you and your husband are ready to start. But to answer the question, we were 32 (me) and 27 (him) and married a little over a year when we started trying.
Post # 5
TiaMP: there is not one right answer as to when to start TTC. its up to you and your husband.
We just made a year this month and we are going to start trying in January. We will both be 30
Post # 6
We have been married just over a year and we are 26 (me) and 28 (DH). We will likely not start TTC for another 3-4 years.
Post # 7
TiaMP: We are also newly married and aged 24. We are waiting about 4 years or so before TTC, mainly because I am still not qualified in my chosen career and I want some time AFTER I qualify to focus on my career before having children.
I really think it depends on what is right for each couple.
Post # 8
TiaMP: i sugguest at least waiting a year so you can relax and enjoy yourselves as a couple. I was 27 when we started TTC. Lots of time to have one before 30.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’d at least give it a year and then re-evauluate the situation.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
TiaMP: If you guys agree to have it when he is 32 (5 more years), you will be 29, but you could start at 28, so you can hit your goal if you guys are lucky and hit it in the first round. I know 4 years sounds like a long time, but I think 28 is a great age to start TTC. For us, it will likely take at least 4 years to coneceive or even more due to some fertility complications we are working on. If you’d asked me when I was a newlywed that it would take us this long, I would have never believed it. Now, I know better, and getting pregnant can take a long time for some couples.
Post # 11
TiaMP: Married at 31, conceived 4 months after the wedding when 32.
Honestly, If I’d have met the right person and gotten married at your age, I would have tried to conceive around 27 or 28.
Post # 12
I know a lot of people who feel exactly the way you do about wanting to have kids younger, but honestly I think it’s more important to wait an extra two years when you’ll BOTH be equally ready than TTC at a specific *number*
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico
We got married at 22/23 and we plan to start TTC right after our 3rd anniversary. We’ll be around 27 by the time baby comes if we get pregnant in the first year of trying.
Post # 14
TiaMP: Started when I was just turning 25 and had my first child at 25 (DH is/was 29). I wanted to start then because my mom had problems staying pregnant. We have no definite plans on when to start our 2nd though.
Post # 15
We got married in June and are now TTC. We’re 21 and 23.