(Closed) After wedding question

posted 8 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m in a not so similar situation, but I think I can still help: I work with the elderly, many of whom know they will die soon. That leads to a lot of “deep” conversations, because often family feels uncomfortable breaching that subject with their loved ones. Really what I do is more of active listening than anything else. You opinions and philosophy really don’t need to come out, because they just need someone who will say, “that must be really hard for you – what do you think would help?” instead of “yeah, I went through that when ______ happened.”

Hope that helps! I’ve often felt awkward about the atheism thing, as well, when people say they know they’re going to heaven, etc. I’m happy for them that they have that belief, but because it’s assumed you’re Christian until proven otherwise around here, it’s usually phrased very awkwardly for me! I just let things like that slide on a day to day basis. 

Post # 5
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh, I wouldn’t lie and say you’re agnostic or anything – I think too many atheists already feel they have to hide! – but I just don’t bring it up unless asked directly. I try to keep those kinds of conversations geared towards what they believe. That just stems from a basic “do unto others as you would have done unto you” thought process on my end – if any religious person tried to proselytize when I was at the end of my life, I’d be so upset. 

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