Well I didn’t wait… and I am happy I didn’t
I couldn’t imagine a Honeymoon with all that awkwardness
More so if you guys have done Absolutely ZERO … including kissing
Most of us do our “experimentation” during our Teenage Years
So I was busy kissing boys from 12 to 16… and getting enough practice to know what it was I liked and didn’t like
(People can say what they want… but Kissing is very sexy… and an important part of Sexual Desire IMO)
At 16 I had a regular BF… and he got to second base (boob territory)… No Regrets.
17 and I was in College, and had a long term BF who eventually became “my first” when I turned 18. We spent months getting cozier… and working our way up to full on sex.
Getting Naked, getting aroused, and having sex IS A BIG DEAL… especially the first time
It was good that we were in no rush and had months to build towards that intimacy… in my experience this is the way that most people do it…
I couldn’t imagine having sex with someone I hadn’t explored sexuality with… let alone see naked… or kissed.
I would be fearful that if one attempts to go from 0 to 60 first time out… that a “wreck” would ensue in the same way that one wouldn’t do that behind the wheel of a car the first time. (Lol, you need to do a few laps of the parking lot that first day… and find out where all the knobs are buttons are, what they do, and how they work)
And by “wreck” I refer to the fact that I’ve heard many stories where sexual issues have ensued for couples long past the Honeymoon and on into Married Life… things that end up being swept under the rug and not talked about
And sexual difficulties will “eat” at you both… and can set you up for a life long unsatisfying sexual relationship with your Husband
This is precisely WHY a lot of women are non-orgasmic for example !!
I highly agree with @paula1248: on this front… you might not be able to “do” anything in regards of his Sexuality (especially so if you two aren’t experimenting now)… BUT you can most certainly take charge of your own Sexuality, and do some experimenting / self discovery (ie masturbation) on your own so you know how your body works… and what you like etc. If you can become orgasmic on your own… chances are HIGHER that you’ll be able to achieve orgasm with a partner (And if it doesn’t happen for you… then you need to continue to practice. Medical info has proven that only a small portion of women are NEVER orgasmic over the course of their lifetime… while approx 20% or more start off non-orgasmic and thru practice can get there. So it is a case of it is a “muscle” that needs to be exercised to work)
I also encourage you and your Hubby2B to do a TON of reading in regards to human sexuality… a good place to start might be Dr Ruth’s version of “Sex for Dummies” (The Dummies being a well known series of books)
And I wish you luck.
As I said, personally, I’d take it super slow… I’d forget about having sex on the first night… and concentrate on just getting to know each other better over time. And if that means you don’t consumate your Marriage farther down the road… weeks or even months later… so be it.
Hope this helps,