After wedding, what is an acceptable time to get Thank You cards out?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

TiaMP:  My thank you cards were custom made, thank goodness for our photographer getting my pictures back to me within 4 weeks bc we had our favorite wedding pictures printed onto the thank you card. I had all 120 thank you cards hand written and mailed right under our 2 month mark. 

I think anything under 3 months is a prompt response. A lot of people actually called me or texted me and thanked me for the quick thank you. Lol it was funny

Post # 3
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

3 months is the usual timeline. We had ours out by 2 months. I made it a top priority. 

Post # 4
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We wrote ours as we opened the gifts. 1 it made us do them without procrastinating 2 it got my husband to help and 3 I didn’t have to look through a notebook or anything to find out what they gave

Post # 5
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We wanted until we had all our photos back to make thank you cards and sent the guests photos of them. We had all 300 guest’s (idk how many thank yous there were like 150?) thanks you sent within two months. I think much longer after two-three much is unacceptable. Yes everyone goes on a honeymoon/moves/new job/yadada but in the majority of cases it can get done within that time. 

Post # 6
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

ASAP, I got them out the week after the wedding because I don’t think there’s leeway on this. 

Post # 7
230 posts
Helper bee

I don’t have a real excuse to why we didn’t do it faster but we got them out just shy of the 3 month mark and it was PAINFUL. We didn’t do a great job of keeping track of which ones we sent and which needed to be written either, so I’m pretty sure a few guests got 2. Haha better than none! 🙂

Post # 9
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

For cards that came before the wedding, I did them as soon as I got them.  After the wedding, I got mine out within a month. 

Post # 10
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TiaMP:   Im still waiting on my photographer to send me our pics to i can make ours 🙁 got married 9/12. I think if i get them out before Thanksgiving that will be fine

Post # 11
716 posts
Busy bee

I would say 1 month.  Two week grace period for your honeyymoon and then two weeks to write thank you notes.  If you can cash my check, you can write me a thank you note. 

Post # 12
3217 posts
Sugar bee

The sooner the better.  The longer the time the less grateful the recipient appears.

Etiquette experts give 3 months max.  But it only takes a few hours to sit down and crank them out.

Do not wait (not you OP, since you seem to be on it) for the photographer to give you pics.  Prompt thank yous are much more important then sending someone a picture of yourself.

Post # 13
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

We got them out ASAP (I just didn’t want them hanging over our heads) but I think up until three months is reasonable. Beyond that I start to wonder if we will be getting one.

Post # 14
1971 posts
Buzzing bee

This is more for lurkers, not necessarily the OP, but three months really is seen as an absolute upper boundary for these things, and one should try to have them done well before that time.

Also, count me in among those who would rather receive a prompt note instead of a long-delayed note with a photo.

Post # 15
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’d say 1-2 months is ideal. If you’re going on honeymoon, moving, or life happens as long as it’s within the 3 months you’re still following proper etiquette.

I also prefer prompt no-photo thank yous, over very late thank yous with photos on the card.

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