(Closed) after years of looking, job offer, but moving COLD FEET

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll: Is fear of moving to be with FI normal?
    Yes, it's to be expected : (32 votes)
    86 %
    No, this is a sign something is bad : (2 votes)
    5 %
    Sort of: please explain : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Have you ever moved far away before?


    Post # 4
    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I moved from Northern California to Southern California to be with my SO (at the time, now FI).  I was really nervous to move across the state, particularly because all of my friends and family live in Northern California.  However, even though it was a hard move, my life now is so wonderful, moving to LA was the best decision I’ve ever made!  Sometimes, the biggest changes in life bring about wonderful things.  But the jitters?  Completely normal.

    Post # 5
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    do it. if you don’t, you’ll regret it. Trust me.

    better to have done it and learned from mistakes, than to not do it and wonder what if for the rest of your life.

    Post # 7
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I asked because if you had moved alot before the cold feet would probably be due to the relationship, not the moving. Since you haven’t moved before I would expect you to be nervous. Being scared of change is normal. It’s ok to have cold feet about going somewhere else.

    That being said your 29 lady! Get out and explore the world. Make new friends and have fun. Life is about experiences, and if it doesn’t work out Chicago will always be there.

    Post # 9
    6745 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @bluehydrangeas:  you’ll find a new routine.  i say do it.  you have to live life and take chances to find happiness, imo.  GOOD LUCK!!

    Post # 10
    3248 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think it’s totally normal to be intensely nervous about moving far from where you’ve lived before, plus starting a new job, plus starting to live with your SO! Uprooting your life is a big step, but I think you will very much regret it if you don’t, particularly if you have been looking forward to living with your SO for a long time. I moved to live with my SO a couple years ago, out of my parents’ home, and that was certainly a scary wrench even though I wasn’t even moving out of state. Humans don’t like change!

    Don’t worry about what your parents will think. I’ve let that worry dominate my life in the past and it just isn’t worth it– do what YOU need to do, and if they disapprove, well, if they love you, they will get over it and/or deal somehow, especially if they are confident you are happy with what you are doing and who you’re with.

    Good luck!

    Post # 11
    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Well… someone has to move.

    We were LDR and my [now] husband moved.  I mean, I think cold feet is normal, totally.  To be completely honest, it took over a year for him to adjust.  But in the grand scheme of things, it was 100% better for our relationship.

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