Post # 1
So we’re trying to decide between a Sat afternoon and Sat evening wedding/reception. It would be on Long Island, with about 30 guests from the Boston area, the rest (about 120) from NJ/NY.
If you were a guest (especially out-of-town), which time would you prefer?
And do you personally enjoy afternoon or evening weddings more?
Post # 3
I like evening weddings cause they tend to be more formal, but afternoon weddings are nice because you don’t drink as much and can still go out for a late dinner if there’s a place in the area you really want to try (and from your perspective, an afternoon wedding isn’t as expensive!)
Post # 4
I totally disagree that afternoon weddings aren’t as expensive!!! I’m having a daytime wedding/afternoon reception and it’s costing us a small fortune. Our plated meal only costs about $2-$3 less than a dinner plate, but to add the creme brulee to a daytime meal its costing us $7.75 per person! That really gets me going lol because dessert is included with the dinner plate price.
Also, I still have to pay $28 per person for daytime drinks. The evening bar package costs $36 pp. I’m not getting nearly as much bang for my buck because most of my guests won’t drink more than 1 drink per hour, but at $9 for a glass of wine, I had to go with the host bar package. It’s a huge misconception that its cheaper to host daytime weddings!
Anyway… there’s my rant of the day lol. _______________________________
@monkey: Because the majority of your guests will be driving out of town to your wedding & going home that night… I would suggest an afternoon wedding! This way they can drive home safely & get home at a reasonable time. 🙂
Also daytime weddings are a lot more relaxing. After the wedding you’ll get to just chill with your husband & enjoy one another. Maybe go out for a nice dinner just the 2 of you, get massages or relax in your gorgeous hotel room!
Post # 5
We’re sort of having both. Our ceremony is at noon, and we’re serving lunch after it. Three days later, we’ll have an evening reception back home.
We won’t really save anything on food for the luncheon. Because the luncheon will be so late, we decided to work from the dinner menu instead of the lunch menu. However, if you have a luncheon reception, people don’t tend to expect an open bar beforehand, or drink as much during the reception, so you do save on alcohol.
Also, we’re old enough so that we’re not going to go out drinking until 4:00 in the morning. If we have a luncheon reception, we can spend more time with our guests without having to stay up late at night. (After the luncheon, we’ll all go back to the place where we’re staying and have an informal barbecue that night.)
At the same time, I do enjoy the idea of an elegant evening party. Thus, the reception back home will start at 8:00 pm, after a normal dinner hour. We can serve heavy hors d’oeuvres instead of a plated dinner. Because we are not having to allow time for a ceremony, we can have a party that goes on for five hours, and still get home before 2:00 AM.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Personally, I think evening weddings have a much more celebratory feel. There’s way more dancing and they tend to be a little more boisterous….So I guess it depends on what you’re hoping for with your wedding! If you want it to be a Party with a capital P, then evening is probably a better bet. If you want it to have a more laid-back, chiller mood, than an afternoon wedding is probably right for you…Also, are you thinking your guests will be making a weekend out of it? Like, coming in the night before, coming to a brunch the next day, etc etc?
Post # 7
I like evening weddings personally. Especially if I’m getting there from out of town. It give ya time to travel, check into a hotel (a hotel for one night isn’t a huge inconvenience), get ready then have fun! The afternoon maybe be a lot cheaper though, so if it is, I’d consider it. It just means your guests will have to travel earlier and hopefully they’ll be able to get ready or check in early.
Post # 8
It really depends on the what you want the vibe of your wedding to be. If you want a more casual & relaxed wedding, then afternoons are so cute for that vibe. If you want it to be more upbeat & a little more romantic, then evening weddings set that mood.
Personally, I wanted a fun, dance party wedding so an evening was my choice 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I prefer evening weddings. I don’t think it would make too much of a difference to an Out of Town guest, especially if he/she is already planning to stay over — but you might want to do some research to see if an afternoon soirree would give you some price breaks with vendors!
Post # 10
I’m getting married in a garden and the ceremony and reception is both outdoors. Plus, there’s plenty of light for pictures, and we don’t have to rent any lights, which helps cut down on rental costs.
Post # 11
I always like evening weddings… I think that a lot of times even if it is an afternoon wedding, chances are everything starts way earlier but lasts overall the same amount of time… so when I’ve been an out of town guest, I usually always just end up with a hotel room regardless of the time of day because by the end of it I’m always exhausted either way!
Post # 12
As a guest, I’ve always preferred evening weddings, as I really enjoy a party!
Are your guests really planning on driving to and from Boston in a day? That is a loooong drive.