Post # 1
I would like honest answers, not the “it’s your wedding, it should be how you like!”
I am attaching a picture of where we will be having our wedding in the end of June.. I have been putting off certain things for the wedding, such as booking a dj/band because I am just not the party type and I don’t really care for 4+ hours of dancing!
I am trying to save money where possible, but I am not having a wedding that looks cheap! Just trying to save where I can…
Would you guys be ok going to an afternoon wedding that had a string quartet for the ceremony/cocktail hour/background music? I was thinking cocktail hour with them playing classical music, then around dessert they would switch to more upbeat music, they’re able to play current hits and it sounds amazing! I’m stuck with what would happen after dessert… or would it simply be a 2 hr wedding? Would be annoyed as a guest if you traveled from the East Coast to Colorado and this is all you got?
Help me please!!! I don’t know what to do for my wedding! HONEST answers please!!
Post # 3
I will always rather hear the real song rather than some band’s version of it. So even if it’s in the afternoon and it’s not a party/dancing atmosphere because of the time, DJ still gets my vote.
Post # 4
@Dixiesgirl: I think that could be great! We were at a wedding that had a folk trio that was awesome. There was no dancing, just awesome background music and we loved it (and we are the dance all night type)
Post # 5
@Pinkmoon: That’s part of it too, we can’t decided if we want an afternnon or evening wedding.. And I feel if it is an evening wedding, then everyone would expect dj and not be content with a quartet? … Thanks for your feedback, I agree that everyone enjoys the original song!
@Pollywog: Thank you! I think having a quartet would be such a nice change of pace for background music.. I’m just worried about what would come after eating? lol I’m sure dancing to the quartet would get old quick if a few people wanted to…
Post # 6
@Dixiesgirl: Please please invite me to your wedding with a string quartet! PLEASE!!!!!!
By “everyone expects a DJ” you may mean that everyone has attended the same cookie cutter weddings and I guess they have. I like the sounds of yours much better.
Post # 7
@Dixiesgirl: We drank and talked for hours (like 4 or 5). No one was a mess and we loved it! Honestly, it was as different as could be from my wedding, but the most fun wedding I have been to.
Post # 8
I personally love live music, so if you do an afternoon wedding with no dancing, then that is a great way to do it. The reception would end up on the shorter end, but you could always have lawn games and the like to keep guests entertained, and they’ll mingle plenty.
If you’re doing an evening reception with dancing though, then a DJ seems best.
Post # 10
Hello…I was in the same situation that you were. We decided to go with a string quartet instead of a D.J. Our wedding was on a Sunday afternoon.
I kept wondering how this would go over with the guests. Every wedding I had ever been to had a D.J., and I wondered if people would be disappointed if we did not have one.
Turned out to be beautiful. We received many compliments. One woman came up to me and told me it was an elegant, classy wedding.
We did it a little differently than what you are planning. We hired them for 4 hours (then paid them to stay for an extra half hour). They played music during the ceremony held outside. They played jazzy music during the cocktail hour while we were outside taking pictures. After dinner, they played our first dance and then some music people could dance to.
People did dance, although not many. I think this had to do with our wedding being small, not the quartet. No one seemed to mind, though.
I also worried about people leaving once the music stopped. Ceremony was at noon, music stopped at 4:30 and people started to leave around 5, not too long after bar closed. That was OK with us.
Easier to make dancing less a part of it during the day than at night. People expect more of a party at night. Add an activity to keep people interested/engaged. We had everyone on dance floor for group picture, than asked the married couples to stay on the dance floor. They were asked to line up by how long married (they had to talk to each other and figure it out), then my friend went down the line with a microphone and asked each couple for words of advice for us. Some of the advice was funny and got the room laughing. At some of the sweeter suggestions, there was applause. At the end, I presented my bouquet to the woman who had been married the longest.
If it is a small wedding, you don’t need a D.J. to make all the announcements. A friend can do it, and it seems more intimate.
Although it is hard to do something different, it can be well worth it. Many people do not like the blaring D.J. music.