I an an Encore Bride, and Older Bee (over 50)
So I’ve seen a lot of life, and experienced a good lot too.
Based on what I’ve seen work and not work, I’d have to say the following:
The closer in age the better
So “a Gap” under 5 is ideal
7 to 10 still good
10 to 12… a few issues (more so when you are young or old)
12 is my personal max (and my recommendation for others as theirs)
As I do see that when couples get to the 15 Year and above Gap there are a lot more issues / problems
And it makes sense when you think about it…
One of the individuals was pretty much a full grown adult when the other was just being born.
So like it or not, even if you have a lot in common NOW in reality you are from two different Generations, and that can cause more and more issues as the two of you age.
30 & 45 = Not so noticeable
40 & 55 = More noticeable (especially so if there are kids)
50 & 65 = Definitely noticeable (the older person is now Retiring)
60 & 75 = The younger person is still working, the elder person is a senior
70 & 85 = IF the older person is alive, they are quite elderly / frail / possibly sick… while the younger person could be a quite vibrant senior
Hope this helps,